Daphne Merkin on a book called "Sleeping with Strangers"

[devifemme]

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/02/20/books/review/sleeping-with-strangers-david-thomson.htmlRead more... )

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Merkin, writing on kink

[devifemme]

I'm enjoying a new relationship here with a kinky girl who LOVES the flicks. And I chanced to find a squib in the current New Yorker about the book discussed in this post of mine

[meisje_viktoria]

Read the article, but as someone who is not into films, I do not think I been exposed to much of the ideas in it.

[devifemme]

Yay, sweetie, you're here, even as I had given up finding you tonight!

I'm sorry you weren't intrigued by Daphne's gay friend and his "purple prose." Did you closely read my intimate (indeed, confessional!)) comment above? It's kind of important to me.

Hugs, J

[meisje_viktoria]

I read it, and I was just thinking if I every had someone in my life like you did, who opened me to what I lust for, or if's it's just innate and I am programed this way. I wish I was lucky to have someone like you did.

"Boston marriage" and other partner probs.

[devifemme]

That's nice of you to say, darling Victoria -- but, at the same time, I envy you YOUR girlfriend/partner. She's seemingly a voyeur who doesn't mind your casual relationships, sweetie, and she has a few kinks that you (and I -- vicariously!) explicitly enjoy.

And, yes, I used to be spanked -- or otherwise sensually punished -- almost daily. Now it's the 21st-century equivalent of a "Boston marriage" -- two middle-aged women bound together, but no sex!