Which one would YOU rather--love or a relationship?

[determinedjay]

This is a subject I'm just curious to know how others feel about. It is actually a situation I am dealing with right now in a sense and although I have my mind made up on how I feel, please let me know your comments

Comments

[teenhealthdiva]

as i've matured, i realize the importance of loving my partner. this being said, relationships w/o love are cool, but generally get old. also if there is no ove in the relationship, then you will generally find yourself in one empty relationship after another. for some, that's fine. it all depends on what you want.

also, if you are with somebody that won't commit, then i would really question the degree of love.

[determinedjay]

Thanks for your wise words. I really do appreciate it.

[determinedjay]

Well I must say your novel word is very enlightening, lol, never thought of it that way at all, but thanks for your opinion. I do feel that this person wants to commit to me but some things that happened to us in our past is whats preventing it, I think. But, that's a whole 'nother story in itself.

[boitoirich]

you can never replace being in love -- the feelings and the happiness enrich your life so much more. so even if you're not in what is called a relationship with someone that you love, you're still better off for that.

but what purpose does it serve to be committed to someone you feel nothing for, and who, other than being duly committed to you, does nothing for you? i personally don't go out seeking "commitment" and "relationships," because I think that if go out looking for these things then you're just looking for trouble.

i always find that my friends who always seem to be hurt by someone are the same friends who feel the need to be with someone. well, it's not my place to judge people's preferences, but for me, i could never be that guy.

[determinedjay]

Well thanks for the comment man. I actually agree with you. Love is so much more than a relationship so we are on the same page. I appreciate your opinion.

[beautyserinity]

First, I found your journal through Charity, mind if I add you?

Second, I really liked this entry. It was thought provoking. And thought I'd just throw in my two cents...

Me personally, I really don't want one without the other. Relationships can come and go and get old too fast. And I know for me to get close, meaning they know something about me deeper than just what the eye can see, you've got to be something special and so far the the couple of decades I've been on this earth, there's only been 2 people that have managed to do that and only 1 made it into a relationship. The relationship grew into love and things were amazing! THE best feeling in the world! Shit happened and the relationship went away, but the "love" is still there, and it hurts like HELL. All those questions you asked still boggle my mind, if love is there why not the relationship? And that's why I don't want love alone. For me the two should be a package deal...

[determinedjay]

Thanks for your thoughts and I'll add you also.