Existential angst, OMG!

[denorios]

I have one week of my twenties left. I feel like I ought to filling it with a riotous orgy of drugs, crime, alcohol and promiscuous sex. You know, all the stupid stuff you do when you're young. All the stuff I never did, because I have an actual brain and rate myself somewhat above the level of an amoeba

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[pretty_panther]

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[linaerys]

It's probably easier being in New York, where most of my friends aren't married and don't have kids, but I love my 30s so much more than my 20s, for all the reasons you say. I know who I am now, but I needed my 20s to get there.

Happy Birthday anyway! 30s are awesome.

[farad]

Um . . . huh. I mean this totally as a compliment so please please take it in the spirit it's intended but - YOU'RE STILL A CHILD

[denorios]

I know, I know, the number of people who keep telling me 30 is not old... I don't think it's an 'age' thing so much as it is a particular milestone? A point in my life where I thought I would have done this or I thought I would have done that - I guess it's disappointed expectations more than an actual 'omg, i'm getting old' thing, because...yeah, 30 is not old.

Nice to know I come across as mature and adult and sensible, though, even if I'm totally faking it half the time. ;)

[farad]

I suspect you're right that it's not the 'age' so much as the 'expectation' of where you should be in life. But I counter that with the idea that perhaps it's a 'readjustment' of expectation - that you're 'moving into' a new phase of life where these will now be your priorities. You're settling into a phase of life where your expectations are changing and thus your priorities. There are a number of psychological theories that 'break up' individual life in the modern age periods based on what we expect and what we prioritize. I tend to like those theories as I think that though they're general, they're pretty much corroborated by what I see in myself and the people around me. You're moving into a different phase - the depression shouldn't, perhaps, be because of a sense of failure so much as a sense of having a new set of goals to have to meet (you know, 'be careful what you wish for'). so don't think of it as 'failing' or 'being behind' - think of it as setting a new set of goals.

Nice to know I come across as mature and adult

[ciaimpala]

*hugs*

Through a lot of therapy (lol), I've really come to believe and feel that your life's success isn't measured by what other people think success is, but how you feel. I'm turning 27 this year, and I've never been in love or had a serious relationship, not sure if I will get married and/or have kids, never been one for drugs, crime, and promiscuous sex, but I'm happy. I have an amazing job with great co-workers who like and respect me, a wonderful dog, great family and friends, a great apartment...life is good, by my definition.

Not sure if that will help at all, but I'm here if you need/want to talk *hugs*

[badfalcon]

I'm 32 this year and I have a lot of those thoughts. Everyone I went to school with is settled down, married, got kids. Me? I'm living in some bloke's spare room and still temping. And sometimes, yeah, it gets me down and I think about all the things I wanted to accomplish when I was younger, all the things I thought I was going to do, going to be. My sister's kids are the same age as me, and one's divorced wiht two kids, ones married and about to have her first baby, and one's just got engaged. Then I look at me.

I can't help but think I'm supposed to want more than this but... at the base of it all, depression-related issues aside, I'm actually happy with life. I've made some amazing friends in the last couple years, I've the time and means to do the things I love doing, and I'm getting on top of my health issues