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[defixione]

Wow...

Okay, despite the fact that I would support polyamourists in fighting for their rightsDespite the fact that I have several friends who are polyamorous

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[ardent_firesong]

....right, so because you don't like it means your an evil person.

Honestly, I don't really like it either. If other people want to do it, that's cool, but I usually have something in my head say, "Yeah, we'll see how long THAT relationship lasts". Because, like you, in my experience, it doesn't work. It was the straw that broke the camel's back in my parents' marriage, and it was, I believe, a very significant contributor to the breakup of two of my favorite people who now, I'm pretty sure, don't like each other all that much anymore.

So I'm certainly not going to tell other people they can't do it, because it's really none of my business. But I don't think it's a good way to form a strong, long-lasting relationship with anybody.

[defixione]

Well, don't even mention anything like that on Reddit. You will be lambasted. I got called an ignorant right-wing conservative bigot. I had my comments taken out of their context and compared to homophobic and racist sentiments. I even got called a polyphobe indirectly! Nevermind that I regularly hang out with at least one couple who are polyamorous.

[ardent_firesong]

Some people just need to be pissed off at something, and politics is boring because it's too easy a target.

*hugs*

[defixione]

So I'm certainly not going to tell other people they can't do it, because it's really none of my business.

That statement might save you just a teensy bit.

[ravensong]

My thoughts on polyamory are this: if it works for you great. I, myself, have never had a poly relationship. Is it something I'm curious about? To an extent yes. Do I think my boyfriend would go for essentially sharing me? Nope. And I'm fine with that :)

I do think that if you're going to have a poly relationship that you should atleast build a good foundation with your original partner first. Otherwise if you jump into a relationship one day and then the next day decide to be poly...I'm not sure how that would work. I wouldn't think you'd be able to get a good long lasting relationship going and have that foundation of trust, ya know?

[crysthewolf]

bull fucking shit. What a goddamn crock.

[defixione]

I can't tell you how many times last night I had to go around responding to people, explaining that the terminology I used ("I don't support polyamoury") means that I don't promote it, but I don't intentionally rain on other peoples' poly parade aside from giving my opinion and sharing my experiences about it. I even explained the bit about how, if polyamourist rights are ever attacked, I will help fight to protect them.

Even with that, some there were still going on and on about my POV on it being extremely conservative, bigoted and hateful. Someone who even went back and read all my previous replies before commenting STILL indirectly called me a polyphobe!!! Ugh!

[crysthewolf]

Having talked to you at length about polyamoury, I can say with quite a bit of conviction that you are not a polyphobe. Being poly myself, I have never felt put out or offended or marginalized by your opinions on the subject.