Tospy, why do you do this to me?

[debxena]

Tomorrow is Friday the 13th. I don't particularly care that it's Friday, but I do care that it's the 13th. It'll be six years since mum killed herself.

And I'm nervous about tomorrow. I've taken the day off work - I try to not work on that day at all if it can be avoided - but rather than a quiet day hanging with bigtaz and Ben and trying to not be

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[kallysten]

no suggestions sadly but lots and lots of hugs *smooch*

[debxena]

And hugs are wonderful. Thank you, kind lady :)

[missmurchison]

Good luck. I have nothing to offer but hugs and sympathy.

{{hugs}}

[debxena]

Thanks for the hugs, hon. They are much appreciated.

[going_not_gone]

Look at it this way. You'll be far too busy to get depressed. You will have many tasks to distract you all day!

Also--since it is your home, you get to set some ground rules. Do you want to spend the evening reminiscing about mom, or not? Are there some aspects that you want to place off-limits? Can you simply announce, at the beginning of the evening, that if you get too stressed-out or sad you will be going to your room and closing the door, and you hope everyone understands? Maybe arrange a "change the topic now before my head explodes" private signal with Ben and/or your brother?

Finally--is that my spinach lasagna you're making? Because the last time I made it, I told my mother in law that this was my "internationally renowned lasagna recipe," and explained that it had been enjoyed as far away as New Zealand. And hey, if it could get me through dinner with MIL, it'll get you through Friday night--I think it may have some sort of mystical stress reduction properties. So have seconds.

Hang in there, sweetie.

*hugs*

[debxena]

Groud rules are something I've been pondering on. Uncle M can (inadvertantly, I think) be a little heavy handed with his perceptions of things, and paternal advice-giving. I'm hoping that in my space that won't happen, but I have plans about what to do if it does.

I like the concept of a private signal though - thank you!

And do you think I make anyone else's Spinach Lasagne??? I'm all prepared with my noodles and ricotta and frozen spinach, and Ben and I are both really looking forward to eating it again. (Originally I was going to make one meat dish for the carnivores, but then I decided f*uck it - I make really nice food and they're not going to miss it. If they do, well, I've had enough damn salads and roasted veges and nothing else at family gatherings that they'll just have to cope for one night!)

But I'll definitely have seconds :)

*hugs back* Thank you!

[tsavoritegarnet]

Recipe? Later, after you get done with family and the 13th and all that.

[debxena]

Sure - I'll send you this one and the pudding one :)

[vampirefan]

*icon love*!

just had to comment! i just saw princess bride last night for the first time and loved it!

[debxena]

Thanks hon! This is my other Princess Bride icon, made by the marvellous indigoflo. (I like yours, too!)

[vampirefan]

ooo! love it!

thanks!

[wenchwoman]

princess bride - best revenge [justice?!] scene ever!

Inigo: Hello, my name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die. Now offer me money.
Rugen: Yes!
Inigo: Power too. Promise me that.
Rugen: All that I have and more. Please....
Inigo: Offer me everything I ask for.
Rugen: Anything you want!
Inigo: I want my father back you son of a b*tch. *stabbitystab*

*cheersloudly!*

[seanfish]

*hugs*

Suggestions - accept those bad feelings and let them wash through and over as opposed to trying to fight them off. Of *course* you feel bad about the day.

*more hugs and shugs besides*

[debxena]

Hugs and shugs? Thank you, sweetheart :)

Good suggestion, and I shall endeavour to go with the flow ...

[seanfish]

How went it?

[debxena]

It's today, hon. Will let you know.