18 Years Yesterday ...

[dawn_felagund]

As of yesterday, Bobby and I have been together for 18 years.

I have told the story before of how we got together at the ages of 14 (me) and just-barely-15 (him) at a dance at our nerdy math-science magnet school, so I won't repeat it now. Suffice to say that we have been together for well over half of our lives by now with no plans on changing

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[dreamflower02]

OMG! Y'all are so totally adorable together! Congratulations on the 18/10 thing.

The DH and I are coming up on 38 this year! I hope y'all continue to be happy together like we are!

[dawn_felagund]

Thank you! :) 38 is awesome! I look forward to being there (but it can take its time in coming ... :D)

[la_prime]

Congratulations!
It's a long period. I'm introvert too and I know how important to find non-irritating man. Really glad for you!

[dawn_felagund]

Thank you! :) It doesn't feel like 18 years ... but then it does because it's hard to remember not being together.

[heartofoshun]

What adorable pictures. You are just as cute together in real life as you are on film! I adore you two! I love that "first formal dance" picture. You have no idea how smooth you look for fifteen-year-olds! Happy anniversary! And best wishes for many, many more.

[dawn_felagund]

Thank you so much. :)

Looking back at these old pictures was a little sad for me because, at the time, I was convinced I was so ugly and undesirable. I couldn't imagine why Bobby--who ran with a cooler crowd than I did (by magnet school standards!)--would ever be interested in me. I look back and realize I was really cute! And apparently smooth too ... which I never would have thought back then. ;)

[heartofoshun]

Hindsight! Seriously! Youth is wasted on the young!

[spiced_wine]

I often tell him that he is just as good as being alone, which sounds awful, unless you know what it's like to live in an extremely introverted brain, and then you understand that it's actually the highest compliment I could pay.

This is the best! Yes, I know exactly what you mean.

I always had to be 'on' with my previous b/f's. With Kev I don't; I couldn't live with any-one if I wasn't able to be off. It would leads to my implosion - or explosion. That too.

Those are lovely pictures. You look wonderful together, and are such a lovely, and personable couple! :)

[dawn_felagund]

Thank you! :)

The funny thing is that Bobby is an extrovert. (Not as completely as I am an introvert, but an extrovert all the same.) Yet he gets me and the way that I am. (When his grandmother was staying with us once, he sent me to our room to do some writing because he knew how thoroughly she was annoying me! :D) He's the only person I've ever lived with (aside from my family as a kid), but I can't imagine living with an extrovert who was like, "Wow, you had a hard day at work today. Let's go to the bar! Let's invite a bunch of people over for dinner!" D^:

[spiced_wine]

When his grandmother was staying with us once, he sent me to our room to do some writing because he knew how thoroughly she was annoying me! :D

Aww, bless him!

I can't imagine living with an extrovert who was like, "Wow, you had a hard day at work today. Let's go to the bar! Let's invite a bunch of people over for dinner!" D^:

My ex's were like that, and I had also just finished work, and got steadily more exhausted, until travelling home, and knowing I was going out for another four-odd hours, I was almost weeping. Stupid! I was young, though. I would never do it again. I love the kind of understanding and silence that does not require words. But equally, you can just talk about something knowing they'll pick it up and 'get' it.

[dawn_felagund]

I had also just finished work, and got steadily more exhausted, until travelling home, and knowing I was going out for another four-odd hours, I was almost weeping.

Ugh, that sounds awful!

But equally, you can just talk about something knowing they'll pick it up and 'get' it.

Yes, Bobby and I have our own language by now! Sometimes just one word, abbreviation, or gesture will communicate something that's evolved over years! :D

[huinare]

Aww! Happy anniversary. =D

I often tell him that he is just as good as being alone, which sounds awful, unless you know what it's like to live in an extremely introverted brain, and then you understand that it's actually the highest compliment I could pay.

OMG yes! That is amazing. I've never found anyone I'm as comfortable with as I am with just me, myself, and I.

[dawn_felagund]

Thank you! :)

I am usually hyper-cognizant of being around other people. And I definitely put up a facade, a very sarcastic sort of swagger that is likely defensive due to finding social relationships, for so long, something one needed to be defensive during! But with Bobby, I will often forget I'm not alone.