Randomness

[davyjrshort]

Okay, just thinking, I have married friends (both gay and straight) who...when their better half is away on travel for work (or whatever reason) they exclaim over and over that they miss them terrible. Love, love, love and whatnot. I see people on television (couples, say...biggest loser for example) that state they miss their husband/wife terribly

Comments

[davyjrshort]

Is there ever moments you feel 'glad' when they're not there? What about that thought? I guess this is all leading up to a more ultimate question that I struggle with...

But I do hear you, compromise, I expect and totally agree with. I guess I'm a strong loner as well but, shouldn't I at least miss him when he's not around at least fairly often?

(and p.s.: I see cellboy responded as well. would he see this reply or how does that all work. Learning the LJ thing still, lol)

[cellboy]

Yep. I'm pretty much on the same page as theoctothorpe. Although not in a relationship at the moment, I do miss them when they are gone, but not right away. I tend to be a loner, and love my time alone to do my own stuff, and be with me on my own time. At times I wonder, is it the routines that they miss, or do they really miss them? (and of course, different story, that when sig is away, they are out to play. Then they don't miss them as strongly? Maybe yes. Maybe no

[davyjrshort]

yes indeed, the 'out to play while sig is away' scenario is definitely a very different story, lol. I hear you though!

[bitterlawngnome]

It is human nature to miss the familiar when it is not present. There's nothing pathological about it ... usually.

[davyjrshort]

But if the familiar is not present, and you don't really miss it, from a relationship point of view, is that bad?

[bitterlawngnome]

It would be odd, and I'd want to think about why the "normal" reaction wasn't happening and make sure nothing was amiss, but in itself not really. Also it's possible to simultaneously miss someone and still be happy to have time to yourself; they don't cancel out.

[davyjrshort]

You make good points. hmm..