Homewrecker?

[explainable]

I have a situation. I have a bestfriend who's practically my sister, by fate. I told her about this guy that I like, so she gathers up information by asking me stuff about him. Next thing you know when we spoke on the phone she searches him on facebook and pokes him.

I mean i didnt mind at all as long as it doesnt get out of hand you know. So the

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friend?

[tenbones]

She's suppose to be a friend..but I guess she showed her true colors.

She probably spread some lies about you so that probably dimished your chances.If you still like him, you have to be better than her and tell him how she really is. Fight back now.

Good luck

[thegully]

Honestly you shouldn't have been reading her messages. That was an invasion of her privacy and you were completely wrong to do that. And she can't be a homewrecker if you and this guy didn't even have a relationship.

As for your friend, has she gone after men you expressed an interest in before? If so, then she's not a real friend. I think it is weird that she felt the need to contact him out of the blue but It could just be that she was trying to find out more about him for you and what you took as flirting wasn't ... or at least not on her part.

I don't think she ruined your chances. If this guy was interested in you, he wouldn't be flirting with your friend.

[thegully]

Regarding the last line, I mean that if the guy was interested in the first place he probably wouldn't have been flirting with your friend so who knows whether there was ever a chance to begin with.

with the guy

[tenbones]

What ever you do dump that friend..what happened to "sisters before misters".

Just don't act too needy around that guy

[domin8ed]

I think a real friend wouldn't go after someone their friend is interested. Period.

[gindaisy]

I think it was wrong of her, but it's also wrong of you to go into someone else's account and read their messages. If you each have such little respect for each other, maybe you should evaluate the friendship.

At this point, the guy probably wants to stay out of this brewing drama.

[fremescence]

I agree with you on all points.

Yeah, she was wrong to go after this guy, but you had so little faith in your friendship that you resorted to logging into her account and reading her messages--and then forwarding her private convos to your friends. It sounds like you guys aren't really friends at all.

As far as the guy, whatever happens happens. Embroiling him in this drama is probably going to end your chances with him for sure, however.