I Really Want To Give Up

[dlzx09]

There's this boy I'm starting to really like, and he swears I'm the only one he really "talks" too. But he's the type that flirts with ALOT of girls. But his friends and everyone else still look at me as his "main" girl. Only sometimes his flirting is so out of control I just get fed up and walk away. Although I still have to realize the fact that

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[missjecka]

"I never say anything when he's flirting with other girls because usually it doesn't bother me. But it seems like he does it all the time like as if that's just the person he is. It gets really annoying."

I'm sorry, but it must bother you if you're posting this here! I think first you need to admit that you're somewhat jealous and/or starving for more attention from this guy!

Secondly, why not just talk to him? Say, "Hey, I like you," and take it from there?

[nosmokegirl]

well, since you're not even in a defined relationship with this guy, then there's not much you can do about his behavior.

if you want a relationship with him, you'll need to tell him how you feel and see if he wants the same things (an exclusive relationship, etc) and if you do get into a relationship, THEN you can talk about his behavior/how it bugs you/what have you... and THEN you can see if there's an agreement you two can come to when it comes to his flirting and see if it can work...

but until you get into a relationship with him, any comment you make to him about his flirting is only made in the context of "friend to friend" which isn't quite the same as "significant other" context.

[xtoolchickx]

It doesn't sound like you're happy with his habit of flirting with other girls. Even if he does decide to start a relationship with you, I doubt the flirting is going to go away. So it sounds like it's something you have to accept, or try meeting other guys. There are plenty others out there, don't worry.

[_myid]

Holy crap, this is my bf. I really found it hard to believe him -- that he was unaware of it.

I found it hard to imagine how someone could be *that* unaware.

I knew deep down he was genuinely flirtatious in a non-threatening way, but in the back of my mind, I berated myself horribly for "going back to him."

Thanks so much!

[fremescence]

You might want to take a second to reconsider your relationship with this guy. It sounds like he's either oblivious to your deeper feelings, or just isn't attracted to you in that way. Before you fall too hard, you might want to figure out what sort of potential your relationship has. And xtoolchickx has a good point: just because you start dating doesn't mean that he's suddenly only going to focus his attention on you. It's likely that he'll be pretty flirtatious throughout your relationship.

Some people just have magnetic personalities. There is, as you describe, "something about them" that makes you feel completely special and leaves you wanting more. This guy, unfortunately, may be one of those guys. You should figure out--for your own sanity!--what he feels about your relationship.