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[ratatusk]

I’m beginning to wonder if it’s time to break up with my boyfriend (let’s call him Sean for the internet). We’ve been together for two years, and I like him and all, but I don’t know if I love him. We get along great and barely every fight, and I know I used to love him, but I just don’t feel it anymore. I really do enjoy being with him though. It’

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[osita2000]

I would tell him about points one and two.. heck, also three.

From the other side, he might feel awkward abotu the religion thing, too. Perhaps he also can't share things about his deeper self because of your differences in beliefs. Just food for thought there. (I'm a non-scary Christian who has dated agnostics and usually feel more separated from them than with Christians.)

As for hte other stuff, I'm with you. These are things that I would tell someone (in a nice way), though, so that they know where I"m coming from. He needs to know what you're into and not (and vice versa).

Sorry this is poorly written. THe coffee isn't working.

[ratatusk]

We have talked about all this before, and mostly he just panicks and tries to convince me to stay with him. Not that I need to be convinces (I guess I just don't feel like it's time to leave him yet). Will talking about it change him? I don't think so, it's just the way he is and I don't want to be with someone who never does anything.

Sorry this is poorly written. THe coffee isn't working.
Heh.

Sorry to go off topic, but for the sake of literature I must!

[turnsol]

You don't happen to be an Eddings and Rowlings fan?

(I noticed from your profile that you are a Stargate fan as well...me too)

Re: Sorry to go off topic, but for the sake of literature I must!

[turnsol]

I love Eddings! The read the Belgariad and Malloreon series...Pol was one of my favorites...so when I saw her name I freaked a little.

I have been an SG-1 fan since it started on Showtime...

I agree, you have impeccable taste! I could always use a friend like that!

[turnsol]

I can relate to the WoW thing...my boyfriend is obsessed too, and he is less than motivated. He is happy with the way things are. He's a computer programer and is good about the job thing though

[geek_dragon]

WoW is addictive. It's built to be time wasting and addictive. It's actually only a so-so game, but people have to put in a lot of time to keep up with things.

[turnsol]

Yeah...tell me about it. Our Sunday mornings consist of me sitting in bed reading and him playing WoW...which really isn't that bad...lol...but still...

I just can't rationalize me telling him to stop...everyone has that thing that consumes their time that others can't understand why...

[geek_dragon]

That's not bad. Have you heard the horror stories? People playing so much they lose their jobs, and gfs etc. Every evening is common for many.

[ice_faerie]

Hmm... well I was in this kind of situation a little while ago. Sometimes it's hard to be in a relationship for that long because the honey moon phase is over, so it's hard to see the excitement. As for wow, well... both my boyfriend and I play the game and we love it. I hated it before but once I played, it was awesome. Now on days we get home from work late or go to the gym or something, we go home and play wow together, that way we're interacting, but we can still both be at home and dont have to go out late

[tail_fear]

I would say that he just doesn't sound like the right guy for you. He may be a perfectly nice guy, but with what you said about point number one, it doesn't sound like you are completely happy with all that he is willing to give (and that doesn't sound like it is as much as it should be).

If you've talked about it before and it hasn't changed yet it isn't going to change just because you have a conversation. Guys in general don't change unless they really, really want to.

If you don't see a future with him and are really feeling this lukewarm about him then it may just be best to dump him and date around. Just because he's your first boyfriend doesn't mean he's the right person. The more you date the more you know what it is that you are looking for in a partner. It is a learning experience that you shouldn't pass by because you feel obligated to this guy.