I agree with you on the difficulties inherent in language. While I am for the most part anti-abortion, I am also most definitely pro-choice - because all of life is a series of choices. It's frustrating, how labels work that way.
I'm not really anti-abortion. In fact, if I must be honest, I'd rather see babies aborted than to be raised by those who would exploit them or hurt them.
However, I also don't feel its my right to tell anyone what they should do about the situation should they become pregnant... yes, that makes for some moral issues, because what do you do about the woman who is addicted to drugs who gets pregnant and has the baby, but will not stop using drugs?
It's a rough call, but I still hold to the concept that until we can remove a fetus almost at the moment of conception and raise it separate from a woman's body, the woman carrying the baby ultimately gets the control.
I understand. I'm getting more and more frustraited every day at this.
What really kills me are the young girls and women who are stupidly allowing this to happen. "But I wanna be a little Mommy someday, so I don't mind this at all!"
Wonderful. It's nice that we women are more than willing to give up our rights, all for the "joy" of Mommyhood, even if some of us don't find it a joy.
I was the product of a drunken one night stand. I am pro-choice. I get the, "Well you should be--" reaction a lot. I usually answer back with, "No, that actually gives me a better perspective
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I live in a weird void. I don't like to think that I'm pro-abortion, but I also will admit that I would rather see babies aborted than to be born into families that will abuse and exploit them. One of my big problems with the prolife agenda, is that it seems to feel that "give them women the chance and they'll just wuve being Mommies!" Not. True. We're passing laws that make it hard to have an abortion, we've got people in pharmacies taking a moral road on the forms of birth control we're supposed to use yet, I'm not seeing a whole lot of encouragement to be a good parents, it just seems to be assumed that when babies arrive, we'll all find our parental instincts and be great parents
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Part of the price of freedom of choice is that the choices are not easy.
For me, it wasn't so much that I wasn't planned, it's that she went ahead and had me when she couldn't handle that responsibility. During my teenage years, she had her "It's all about me" phase (and is still going through it) and left me to look after her. Not movie of the week worthy, but she dropped the ball.
Sometimes, I look at this and think, "How was I raised in the same world as some of these people?"
Heh, you almost had me for a moment. I have to trust my faith in you.
The rant is just...I'm scard to be honest. I'm scard shitless and ranting is my way of dealing with it. Yeah, I don't have any daughters myself, but I do have a niece and a great neice and for the first time, I'm litterally terrified that by the time they're my age, they'll be second class citizens.
Don't be scared of the future. It's nothing to be frightened of. As OutKast said, "You can plan a pretty picnic but you can't predict the weather." Stupid people will come into power and stupid people in large groups will make laws. But smart people can too
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The women who get abortions every couple of months as their form of birth control are the ones that make me not want to call myself pro-life. I really don't see that as being pro-life. I see that as being too lazy to get a shot or use a condom or a patch or a pill or their tubes tied.
Okay, that's the argument I see used a lot by the prolife camp. But, for every woman who uses abortion as a form of birth control, there's a young girl who was raped or cooerced into having sex. Most women do not skip happily into the abortion clinic. It's a very painful choice. For the few women who are that...different, laws aren't going to stop them. They'll find the clinics that perform the proccedure anyway and have it done anyway.
Seeing that I know women who had to practically crawl on their bellies and beg to get their tubes tied and in some cases, they're still waiting, I don't buy that one either. Unless you already have at least two children, one a girl and one a boy, it can be extremely difficult to find anyone willing to perform
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I don't mean women who get an abortion because they are raped or abused. I do not mean extreme situations. I am simply talking about women who do not wish to bother with any kind of birth control, and find it easier just to get an abortion every so often and be done with it. I never said that I think it should be made illegal--I just don't really agree with it. I've known a couple of women like this. One of them became so disassociated with the abortions that she saw it as getting rid of an "alien" growing in her womb. If she doesn't want to have a child no one could stop her, but she was well into her twenties when I met her, and I can't understand why it wouldn't just be easier to use birth control
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However, I also don't feel its my right to tell anyone what they should do about the situation should they become pregnant... yes, that makes for some moral issues, because what do you do about the woman who is addicted to drugs who gets pregnant and has the baby, but will not stop using drugs?
It's a rough call, but I still hold to the concept that until we can remove a fetus almost at the moment of conception and raise it separate from a woman's body, the woman carrying the baby ultimately gets the control.
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I find the entire situation so incredibly frustrating.
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What really kills me are the young girls and women who are stupidly allowing this to happen. "But I wanna be a little Mommy someday, so I don't mind this at all!"
Wonderful. It's nice that we women are more than willing to give up our rights, all for the "joy" of Mommyhood, even if some of us don't find it a joy.
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For me, it wasn't so much that I wasn't planned, it's that she went ahead and had me when she couldn't handle that responsibility. During my teenage years, she had her "It's all about me" phase (and is still going through it) and left me to look after her. Not movie of the week worthy, but she dropped the ball.
Sometimes, I look at this and think, "How was I raised in the same world as some of these people?"
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The rant is just...I'm scard to be honest. I'm scard shitless and ranting is my way of dealing with it. Yeah, I don't have any daughters myself, but I do have a niece and a great neice and for the first time, I'm litterally terrified that by the time they're my age, they'll be second class citizens.
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Okay, that's the argument I see used a lot by the prolife camp. But, for every woman who uses abortion as a form of birth control, there's a young girl who was raped or cooerced into having sex. Most women do not skip happily into the abortion clinic. It's a very painful choice. For the few women who are that...different, laws aren't going to stop them. They'll find the clinics that perform the proccedure anyway and have it done anyway.
Seeing that I know women who had to practically crawl on their bellies and beg to get their tubes tied and in some cases, they're still waiting, I don't buy that one either. Unless you already have at least two children, one a girl and one a boy, it can be extremely difficult to find anyone willing to perform ( ... )
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