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[darkenedeyes]

A question for those readers who are bisexual:

Do you find that you are more often attracted to members of the opposite sex who are also bisexual, as opposed to heterosexual?

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yuppers

[sirskitten]

absolutely... but then again i find homosexuality incredibly arousing. :)

Re: yuppers

[darkenedeyes]

Fair enough. . . me too. : ) I also have realized that I've never really been involved with a woman who wasn't bisexual. I'm beginning to think its a matter of pheromones. : )

[daysoftheweek]

personally, while I would like and enjoy a bisexual partner, I've only ever had heterosexual ones. Of course, the last two were kinky heteros, so it worked out alright, but I would like to see some guy/guy action at some point in my life :)

[darkenedeyes]

I was just curious--I tend to find myself attracted to many more bisexual women than straight women, even when those bisexual women are not open about their preferences. And certainly, kinky partners, regardless of orientation, are the best kind. : )

[buckyduckman]

Mostly, I want my partner to be tolerant of male bisexuality, imho: the least understood and least respected sexual alignment. If they are bisexual, there's more of a chance of them being tolerant and understanding.

[darkenedeyes]

I certainly agree with that--one is much more likely to find tolerance of one's bisexuality in a bisexual partner. Also, in my limited experience, bisexual women tend to find sex between men more erotic than do heterosexual women (though that is a generalization, of course).

[buckyduckman]

I would hope that to be true, though in my experience, there doesn't seem to be a correlation between a woman's sexual alignment and her acceptance of male bisexuality. I seem to know an equal number bisexual women and hetero women who accept male bisexuality. The flip is true, too. I seem to know an equal number of straight versus slightly bent women who still cannot wrap their mind around of two guys together. I think it's ultimately an issue outside of personal sexual preferences. Maybe more one of "enlightenment?" LOL!

[darkenedeyes]

lol I like the use of the word "enlightenment" as it pertains to this subject. . . it is no doubt solely my ego, but I'd like to think that broad acceptance of diverse sexual patterns is a sign of an enlightened mind. : ) You are probably right about the lack of correlation between sexual orientation and acceptance of bisexuality in others, though societal pressures may still make for a slightly greater "openness" in bisexuals than others. I also imagine that a distinction should be made between the accepting of bisexuality in general, and an aesthetic appreciation for sex between men.

And I know a number of people who use the word "bent" in opposition to straight, including myself. Love it. ; )

[dirdylilsecret]

I find gayness hot, like sirskitten, so I reeeally go for guys who like guys, whether they're gay or bi. It's not pheromones though, because a lot of the guys I like are on TV. ;)

[darkenedeyes]

Hmm. . . long-distance pheromones, maybe? "Telemones?" ; )

[clovenpine]

Yes. When I learn that a girl I'm meeting likes girls it instantly adds another facet to our interactions. It's not always a physical attraction (not always but usually--I find nearly all girls attractive in *some* way), but it is a rather-more-than-innocent interest. Maybe because after I learn that about them it's almost as if I have permission to be attracted to them?

Great question, though.

[darkenedeyes]

And, if I may ask, does the same apply to men? This is to say: if you find men attractive, do you find yourself more attracted to bisexual males than heterosexual ones?

[clovenpine]

I'm attracted to bisexual men, most certainly. Bisexuality in males signals to me an open-mindedness that is *very* sexy. But...do I find them *more* attractive than heterosexual men? No. As, but not more.