Geeks do not make better boyfriends.
Recently someone on my Facebook list posted some silly cut and paste thing about how geek guys make better boyfriends because they are so nice and truly know how to appreciate a woman. I didn't want to be a Debbie Downer and make a negative comment. But I have to call bullshit on the whole concept. Sure there are geek guys out there who are great partners. But being a geek does not guarantee that a guy will be a great boyfriend.
Myth #1: Shy + nerdy= Nice
Nice guys come in all shapes and sizes. They come from all races, backgrounds and socio-economic statuses. There is no magical equation for nice. It's just something in a person's nature. Being shy does not automatically make a person nice anymore than being confident makes them a jerk.
Myth #2: Geeks are more romantic
This one is laughable at best. I've dated a lot of geeky guys, and none of them were particularly romantic. The most romantic lover I've ever had was a "jock".
Myth #3: Geeks are low maintenance
Supposedly geek guys make great boyfriends because they can subsist on pizza, Mt Dew, and your affection. Just wait until you meet one who will ONLY eat pizza and maybe 3-4 other foods, like some sort of overgrown five year old. It took me nearly a decade to get my computer programmer ex husband to eat salad. My Star Wars obsessed ex boyfriend could not be taken to nice restaurants because he refused to wear anything except ripped jeans and nerdy tees and would not eat anything he could not pronounce. LOW MAINTENANCE MY ASS.
Myth #4: Geeks don't cheat
Yes. They cheat. Some of the worst cheaters I know have been geek guys, and for once I am NOT talking about my ex husband. He pales in comparison to some of the internet casanovas out there, with personal harems (aka chat lists) filled with ladies that they claim are "just friends". But in reality it's all women they have banged, are banging, or want to bang. (and may be color coded as such)
Myth #5: Geeks make better lovers
ORLY? The stereotype is that dudes who were not getting noticed in their formative years spent that time doing their homework in the art of love. Maybe some did. The rest watched so much porn they can't get off without it. And lets not forget all the unwashed gamers. Who cares what they know about the art of love. They know nothing about the art of not smelling bad.
Myth #6: Geeks appreciate women
This one is, by far, my favorite geek guy myth. The myth of the guy who spent all of high school playing D&D but secretly wanting someone to love and when he finally gets a girl he imprints on her and covers her in puppy-like devotion. OMG WHERE DO PEOPLE GET THIS SHIT? You know what really happens when guys don't get laid in high school or college and spend all their time reading coming books and filling their spank banks with Buffy the Vampire Slayer fanfic? They fill their little nerd brains with unrealistic expectations, waiting around for what one of my gamer friends calls a "magical pixie girl". An unattainably hot woman, who will love the nerd boy not in spite of his nerdiness but because of it and somehow his life will be transformed by her love. And he shall get a job. And he shall move out of his parents basement. And he shall cease to be whatever it is he dislikes about himself because the magical lady doth love him. But woe to any girl who does not live up to his fantasy. She will be treated with the same regard as yesterday's Mt Dew cans.
The reality is that there are douchebags everywhere. Grab ten guys out of a comic book store and compare them to ten dudes you grabbed from Buffalo Wild Wings during the game and I GUARANTEE the asshole to nice guy ratio will be the same.
Myth #1: Shy + nerdy= Nice
Nice guys come in all shapes and sizes. They come from all races, backgrounds and socio-economic statuses. There is no magical equation for nice. It's just something in a person's nature. Being shy does not automatically make a person nice anymore than being confident makes them a jerk.
Myth #2: Geeks are more romantic
This one is laughable at best. I've dated a lot of geeky guys, and none of them were particularly romantic. The most romantic lover I've ever had was a "jock".
Myth #3: Geeks are low maintenance
Supposedly geek guys make great boyfriends because they can subsist on pizza, Mt Dew, and your affection. Just wait until you meet one who will ONLY eat pizza and maybe 3-4 other foods, like some sort of overgrown five year old. It took me nearly a decade to get my computer programmer ex husband to eat salad. My Star Wars obsessed ex boyfriend could not be taken to nice restaurants because he refused to wear anything except ripped jeans and nerdy tees and would not eat anything he could not pronounce. LOW MAINTENANCE MY ASS.
Myth #4: Geeks don't cheat
Yes. They cheat. Some of the worst cheaters I know have been geek guys, and for once I am NOT talking about my ex husband. He pales in comparison to some of the internet casanovas out there, with personal harems (aka chat lists) filled with ladies that they claim are "just friends". But in reality it's all women they have banged, are banging, or want to bang. (and may be color coded as such)
Myth #5: Geeks make better lovers
ORLY? The stereotype is that dudes who were not getting noticed in their formative years spent that time doing their homework in the art of love. Maybe some did. The rest watched so much porn they can't get off without it. And lets not forget all the unwashed gamers. Who cares what they know about the art of love. They know nothing about the art of not smelling bad.
Myth #6: Geeks appreciate women
This one is, by far, my favorite geek guy myth. The myth of the guy who spent all of high school playing D&D but secretly wanting someone to love and when he finally gets a girl he imprints on her and covers her in puppy-like devotion. OMG WHERE DO PEOPLE GET THIS SHIT? You know what really happens when guys don't get laid in high school or college and spend all their time reading coming books and filling their spank banks with Buffy the Vampire Slayer fanfic? They fill their little nerd brains with unrealistic expectations, waiting around for what one of my gamer friends calls a "magical pixie girl". An unattainably hot woman, who will love the nerd boy not in spite of his nerdiness but because of it and somehow his life will be transformed by her love. And he shall get a job. And he shall move out of his parents basement. And he shall cease to be whatever it is he dislikes about himself because the magical lady doth love him. But woe to any girl who does not live up to his fantasy. She will be treated with the same regard as yesterday's Mt Dew cans.
The reality is that there are douchebags everywhere. Grab ten guys out of a comic book store and compare them to ten dudes you grabbed from Buffalo Wild Wings during the game and I GUARANTEE the asshole to nice guy ratio will be the same.