I love the way you express yourself. I also dislike ingenuine *hugs* - I don't need to elaborate, you said it all :)
I love giving compliments when I notice something exceptional. I love it when its a complete stranger, and against the trend of not talking to strangers, I usually go up and compliment them.
I agree - it doesn't cost me anything, why shouldn't I point out something interesting, amazing, cool etc... why not share the joy? Hopefully it does brighten their day - even better, hopefully it provokes them to similarly share the appreciation of those around us.
Love! Can't wait to see you and hug you for real!
*is defiantly purrrrry in the wake of lame assed insincere people*
I wrote a long comment... it died... which sucks... I shall try to replicate it in abbreviated form...
when I first started lj you compliemented me virtually, and a few times since then, you have complimented me in person (usually about thinking/writing/important stuff)... and because of your clarity and your way of being, it was always clear to me that you had no agenda, and no need of anything from me in return, it was purely the giving of the compliment that gave you such joy.
I was honoured.
And... because I know, that you know, that if I was there I would if I could and because I send them to you by sms anyway... *genuine-patented-Jen-HUGS* for you :)
I'm glad you found the way I presented the compliments as genuine. It's actually one of the big doubts I have about being so open to complimenting people - But is there a point if they don't think I'm genuine?
I know there is a point, but hey, I'm insecure and screwed up like that. It actually feeds into my not hurting people mindset. Compliments that mean nothing or are lies just hurt the person if they realise, so don't do it.
I keep trying to encourage the manly alternative *pint*
(frankly, the rule is simple - if the person was actually in front of you, and said what they just posted, would you hug them? If so - then *hugs* is appropriate. Otherwise, its not.)
See I know you want me Dave... but that's okay, because I know the hugs are genuine, too :)
And yes, the rule is right. I treat hugs and *hugs* the same way I do sex and cybersex. I wouldn't do the cyber-thing with someone that I wouldn't shag in real life... hence my long history of not cybering with people.
Hmmm... maybe I should start sending people *shags*... That's awfully tempting as a silly way to tell someone I find them incredibly desirable...
Gee Danny, sounds like you're having a bad day, **embraces** Yep, I'm sure that sounded sincere.
I like Dave's *pint*, just right for the problem that can be solved with a beer. Or maybe *blowjob* when things aren't really bad and you just need a little cheering up.
On the other hand after twenty years in IT I hate acronyms (and I can't stop myself using them).
You still have that way of taking something I've always just taken for granted and making me think about it. I've always been one for genuine *hugs* and *snugs* - my way of expressing how I feel when words don't want to work for me. I'd never even considered that they could be insincere.
On the complements thing, it's taken me years to be able to reply to a complement with a slight blush and a "Thanks" and not instantly try to play it down, deny it or change the subject. I feel better for it and my self-esteem is growing because of it.
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I love giving compliments when I notice something exceptional. I love it when its a complete stranger, and against the trend of not talking to strangers, I usually go up and compliment them.
I agree - it doesn't cost me anything, why shouldn't I point out something interesting, amazing, cool etc... why not share the joy? Hopefully it does brighten their day - even better, hopefully it provokes them to similarly share the appreciation of those around us.
Love! Can't wait to see you and hug you for real!
*is defiantly purrrrry in the wake of lame assed insincere people*
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Give a compliment... its the gift that keeps on giving..
I know whenever someone says or does something nice for me, I want to share the love :)
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*LAIP*
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when I first started lj you compliemented me virtually, and a few times since then, you have complimented me in person (usually about thinking/writing/important stuff)... and because of your clarity and your way of being, it was always clear to me that you had no agenda, and no need of anything from me in return, it was purely the giving of the compliment that gave you such joy.
I was honoured.
And... because I know, that you know, that if I was there I would if I could and because I send them to you by sms anyway... *genuine-patented-Jen-HUGS* for you :)
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I know there is a point, but hey, I'm insecure and screwed up like that. It actually feeds into my not hurting people mindset. Compliments that mean nothing or are lies just hurt the person if they realise, so don't do it.
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(frankly, the rule is simple - if the person was actually in front of you, and said what they just posted, would you hug them? If so - then *hugs* is appropriate. Otherwise, its not.)
*hugs to you, you grumpy hairy little monkey*
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See I know you want me Dave... but that's okay, because I know the hugs are genuine, too :)
And yes, the rule is right. I treat hugs and *hugs* the same way I do sex and cybersex. I wouldn't do the cyber-thing with someone that I wouldn't shag in real life... hence my long history of not cybering with people.
Hmmm... maybe I should start sending people *shags*... That's awfully tempting as a silly way to tell someone I find them incredibly desirable...
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There's folks out there who are better not fueled with attention. Sad that it's so, but it's so.
The hours and minutes of our lives are precious. It's wise not to waste them.
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Yep, I'm sure that sounded sincere.
I like Dave's *pint*, just right for the problem that can be solved with a beer. Or maybe *blowjob* when things aren't really bad and you just need a little cheering up.
On the other hand after twenty years in IT I hate acronyms (and I can't stop myself using them).
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On the complements thing, it's taken me years to be able to reply to a complement with a slight blush and a "Thanks" and not instantly try to play it down, deny it or change the subject. I feel better for it and my self-esteem is growing because of it.
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