remembering milo.

[curnon]

So, it's been over two months since my beloved "hobbit cat," Milo, passed away. I think it's high time I wrote about him, because he was a special guy and deserves to be remembered.

Be warned, it's LONG. And probably tear-jerking.

Comments

[obeliamedusa]

Oh sweetie, I wish I could give you a hug in person! I don't know what to say. I'm so sorry you've had such a rough year, and I'm grieved by your grief. I do understand that pain. I still remember losing my two much beloved doggies, and it's still a little painful sometimes, 14 and 7 years later. But like you, I look forward to seeing them both again in Heaven.

You gave your little Milo so much love, it sounds like his life was overall a very happy one, with lots of cuddling, snuggling, and purring. And you were there with him at the end of it. (and yes, I agree with the vet--Milo would not have known anything after the anesthesia; trust me, I'm a neuroscientist!)

I'm glad you were able to write this tribute to Milo, and I hope you will post more pictures. It's better to talk about and share what you're feeling, I think. If you ever want to chat, I'm still on AIM a lot, and I would love to hear from you.

*big, massive hugs*

*some more hugs*

[curnon]

Obelia, you encourage me so much. Just reading this comment removed some of the ache in my heart. You're right, talking about it has been hugely beneficial... I should've done it way sooner, but just couldn't even think straight for a while. Now that I've done it I feel so much better - just knowing that someone else knows about Milo helps a lot, for whatever reason. Plus, I've been reminded that I have some of the best friends in the world here and that I miss them and need to reconnect. ♥

I probably won't be online much in the next few days as I'll be moving back to school, but once things are settled I will definitely make a return to AIM. We need to catch up.

*hugs back*

*hugs back some more*

[shirebound]

Oh my, it's heartbreaking that he was only six when his health problems began. You gave him all the love a cat could possibly want, and he'll live in your heart forever.

*gentle hugs*

[curnon]

Thank you so much, friend. Reading each comment has encouraged me so much. It helps immensely just knowing that Milo will be remembered by someone besides me.

For some reason reading about Pippin and your adventures with her has been so therapeutic for me... I guess seeing other pets finding such loving homes reminds me that Milo had a good life, even though it wasn't as long or as painless as I would've wanted. I hope you and Pippin are blessed with many, many years together.

*hugs back*

[ancalime8301]

Aw, hon... *sniffles and hugs you*

[curnon]

Thanks, friend. I can't believe how much it helps just to know you guys are there. *hugs back*

[doomcake]

Oh honey, reading this made me burst into tears, because I had a similar ending with my kitty-baby a couple of years ago and this reminded me of all the hurt, frustration, and guilt that came with her death. I'm afraid that all I can offer is a lot of long-distance e-hugs and emotional support, and maybe a little encouragement that it's okay to move on. We never forget our beloved pet-children, because they always hold that special place in our hearts, but it eventually does get easier being used to them not being there. There's nothing traitorous in that, I promise! (Though I have to admit that I still tear up over my baby Nosey every so often. It's not like the pain ever fully goes away, but the best part is knowing that you had a hand giving Milo a very loving home.)

♥♥♥ *huge, huge hugs & lots of love*

[curnon]

You are so kind! I just appreciate knowing that some people do understand, and that I'm not crazy for grieving so much. I hate that you've gone through a loss like this too, but it does encourage me that I can move on without feeling like I'm cheating Milo or something. I don't even know what my own reasoning about that is - grief isn't very rational, I guess.

You have no idea how much you've helped, my friend! ♥ ♥ ♥

*hugs and love*

P.S. I know you've been having a rough time lately, too - sorry I haven't commented (hardly have 5 minutes for LJ these days). I've been reading and thinking about you though... hope things are better! ♥

[lawofar18]

I'm so so sorry. We had to put one of our cats to sleep a couple months ago, and I still haven't quite recovered from the sadness of it yet. I hope you feel better soon, and know that Milo is definitely waiting for you in heaven!

[curnon]

Thank you so much! And I'm so sorry for your loss, too. It's a lot harder than you'd think, isn't it? But it's nice to remember that we were able to give these pets loving homes for however long we had them. I've just gotten to the point where I can think that. :)