Minx User Manual

[cunningminx]

Part A
Family Background/History
(this might explain some of my quirks)

• I'm a middle child, like Lisa Simpson. Classic brainy overachiever with straight A's all through high school and college.

• My family wasn't terribly communicative with each other, which is one of the reasons I obsess about communication now. We are not a close

Comments

[vvalkyri]

I am awed by your ability to know yourself and your needs so well.

[blackwell]

They should make all the kids make one of these in high school sex ed classes! Wouldn't that be awesome?

(I spend my time writing fiction, so you'll have to excuse my fantasy world of fun and helpful sex-ed classes.)

[cunningminx]

I think we should make it happen. Wouldn't it be fun to see the user manual evolve over time? What would you have written at 18, 25, 35?

Actually, come to think of it, I kind of did this. When I was in high school, I wrote a list of what tickled and titillated me in a man. I still have it somewhere. Want to know what was #1 on the list? "Can carry on a conversation and is easy to talk to."

:-) Some things never change.

[badmagic]

This list is great, but...there's a lot of it that made me think "Doesn't every guy do that?" But of course they don't, or it wouldn't need to be on the list. I seem to be a much better boyfriend than I'd been thinking.

- Badmagic, who made a nice vegetable curry for his date last night.

[cunningminx]

I know. It makes me kind of sad that I have to write some of these things down.

[badmagic]

I'd think someone out there would be into being nice, if just to throw what they planned to do later into stark contrast.

[clockwerkdragon]

Something to add perhaps?
You live a very public life. Shy partners, or people who tend to be super private might be overwhelmed by that.

[cunningminx]

:-) Not as public as it used to be, my dear. But yes, I should probably add some type of A/B question:

_ It is important that I am mentioned by name or pseudonym as being a part of your life.

_ I prefer to keep my involvement with you private. (As long as all partners are aware).

[meganeko_mausuu]

Very nicely written!

When we were going to collectively be meeting in person for the first time, my family of LDR-type SO's set up a private space where we could discuss things with each other; and one of the requirements was that we each write a 'care and feeding of' post, not dissimilar from this, to make sure there were no misunderstandings due to not knowing about the little things that tend to get missed or overlooked when you're not there in person all the time. (Plus some more basic info like food preferences, allergies, etc...)

[cunningminx]

That is brilliant! I love it. Such a considerate welcome to a poly family.

[adeadlittlegirl]

That's really cool! It's so neat to see others' styles. Being new, it's also likely to be helpful at some point...