Life Update

[crssafox]

Here's a little run-down of some of the stuff going on in my life lately for those of you not on the flist. I've been under quite a bit of stress, so I do apologize if some of my writing has come across as snarky, snippy or even rude. I've been under a lot of pressure

Comments

[digitalis]

Why not just be direct with your grandmother and tell her the reasons and feelings you have here and tell her flat out that you want no more contact with her?

[crssafox]

I have in the past, and she conveniently "forgets" it. I reminded her in an e-mail last night that things have not changed and I wanted to limit contact to only e-mail. She still doesn't understand why I feel like she's treating me as an obligation, so I sent her another e-mail this morning (in response to one she sent replying to the one I sent her last night) breaking it down in no uncertain terms why I'm not happy with her, why I don't want contact, and why what she's been doing hurts.

If she still doesn't get it, I might very well have to go back to no contact whatsoever from her. The down side is, my grandpa is a kind, caring and compassionate person - unfortunately always deferring to his wife - and I don't want to alienate him from my life. However, if I allow both to remain on Facebook, for example, she'll seize control of that and use his Facebook account to contact me. (She's done that in the past.)

[eric_hinkle]

Sorry to hear about all these troubles. I hope & pray that things improve for you soon and that you have a happy and unstressful holiday season.

[crssafox]

Thanks :)

[robertfurry]

I have no grand parents and miss them a lot during the holidays. That's the sad point of getting old yourself. Thing's in life isn't worth fighting over, it's way too short. She will pass on and I guess your troubles will be over and sorry to hear about your troubles.

[crssafox]

I agree, and while I definitely think some things aren't worth fighting over, I do think that I would rather remember my grandma as a perceived loving grandparent I knew growing up, than the type of person she's become. My parent's separation has made her incredibly mean, so I've just cut her out from my life.

Thanks for your support. :3