I've already told you this, but I hate this quote. I think it's demeaning to humanity and especially to women. I think everyone DOES deserve love, and I think we are "eminently lovable as a people." More than people who fail to love being malfunctioning or damaged or whatever, though, I think people are scared. I've been one of those people...I think a lot of people fall into that category at some point or another. Love is scary because there is always the possibility that it will remain unrequited. No one wants to be the first to say I love you because it's putting yourself out there -- making an investment that another person may not be ready to make. And God forbid you come off as dependent or needy. I also think it's more acceptable for men to be scared of love, because we've perpetuated this stereotype about the man who is afraid of commitment, and somewhere along the way that got equated with love. Basically I just think that if more people were willing to show love this world wouldn't be so fucked up. The end.
Just so you know, this is Glenn....
anonymous
December 1 2004, 09:22:32 UTC
I agree with these ladies to a certain extent. Everyone needs love in their lives, it's an important part of living. However, you can't just expect love to be given to you. Like respect, it has to be earned. I don't just mean love from one human being to another for the common reason of being the same species, I'm talking about something deeper. I think that's what the quote refers to. Love is certainly a two way street, especially in a relationship. In reference to what's overheard at the club, I think that's used as a crutch. When a relationship ends, both people are respobsible for it. It may not be an equal responsibility, but both are responsible. It's obvious that he broke up with her, so she is trying to find blame in him. That may be part of the process of getting over it, but I doubt that the concept of love really scared him. I think people are just afraid to admit that relationships sometimes just don't work. Some people are not compatible, and people don't want to accept that they may not be compatible with
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More than people who fail to love being malfunctioning or damaged or whatever, though, I think people are scared. I've been one of those people...I think a lot of people fall into that category at some point or another. Love is scary because there is always the possibility that it will remain unrequited. No one wants to be the first to say I love you because it's putting yourself out there -- making an investment that another person may not be ready to make. And God forbid you come off as dependent or needy. I also think it's more acceptable for men to be scared of love, because we've perpetuated this stereotype about the man who is afraid of commitment, and somewhere along the way that got equated with love.
Basically I just think that if more people were willing to show love this world wouldn't be so fucked up. The end.
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