I hope you don't mind me commenting. I saw this on a friend's page. I'm really sorry that your mother has burdened you with her very real problems. This is as hard for you as it is for her. (I have adult children now. I understand where your mother is coming from.) As much as you are capable of helping and should help. (Do a little extra help with the house and the dog.) You can't solve her problems. She will still feel overwhelmed and you can't be her daughter and her friend at the same time, as close as you are and as much as you love her. She needs to make a new friend, and accept her new life, messy house and all. Help your mother around the house, by all means, that is important, but don't take on the burden of her unhappiness. There are some things beyond your control. (Tell her it is a fine thing she is doing looking after her mother-in-law
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Thank you for your comment. Even if you don't know the whole situation, it's nice to have a bit of input.
"Is she seeing a doctor who can help her deal with her depression, and unclear thoughts?"
She's been on anti-depressants since before I was born. I know that she has seen various psychologists over the years, but she isn't currently seeing one. The last time I brought up the possibility to her she dismissed it, and I'm wary of bringing it up again.
I agree with the general idea of what vegablack62 said. Do what you can to help your mother out, but you can't fix or take responsibility for all of someone else's problems, no matter who it is. If she needs a friend, healthier eating habits, and less of an obsession with a clean house then try to encourage her on those points, but don't make it your fault if she doesn't get them.
I'm not any good at taking action myself, so I don't have any advice there.
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"Is she seeing a doctor who can help her deal with her depression, and unclear thoughts?"
She's been on anti-depressants since before I was born. I know that she has seen various psychologists over the years, but she isn't currently seeing one. The last time I brought up the possibility to her she dismissed it, and I'm wary of bringing it up again.
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I agree with the general idea of what vegablack62 said. Do what you can to help your mother out, but you can't fix or take responsibility for all of someone else's problems, no matter who it is. If she needs a friend, healthier eating habits, and less of an obsession with a clean house then try to encourage her on those points, but don't make it your fault if she doesn't get them.
I'm not any good at taking action myself, so I don't have any advice there.
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