gah

[copperflame]

People keep telling me I don't need to be so strong, that I seem way too together.

I can't exactly afford to fall apart.

What, exactly, is the alternative supposed to be?

Comments

[aisa0]

At best, that's belittling. At worst it's goading.

[copperflame]

Definitely annoying.

[yarrowkat]

it doesn't matter what other people think. you be where you need to be, and everything will work the way it is supposed to work. (i know you already know that, but it seemed worth saying.) i certainly don't blame you for not letting your plans go to hell in a handbasket because of all this, though probably other people would see that for themselves and thus are seeing you as being strong. perhaps you are not "being" strong. perhaps you simply ARE strong. this is A Good Thing. it means you will get where you are going. figuratively as well as literally.

one can always fall apart later, in safety and in solitude. if one wants or needs to. there really will be time.

[copperflame]

Sometimes I feel guilty that I'm not more of a wreck. It's good to hear that I'm not evil for being together...

[yarrowkat]

grief looks different for every person. and you have a lot going on right now. you're allowed to be who and where you are, no matter what that is.

[tonberrygrrl]

You do indeed have a valid point. Life's not simply going to stop and wait until it's more convenient for you. But if it's all right for me to say it, if i had to endure even half as much, i would have long since folded. I think we both know that. To me, that you continue to charge through all this is nothing short of Herculean. Of course i worry about how this could very well be affecting your health. What friend wouldn't?

I'm sorry if i'm being annoying... :-/Edit: I'd like to take those last words back. I think they could and possibly would be taken as incendiary or a riposte, given Alan's reply above, and as a human being i think i can do better than that. (I'm still working on growing up, though; please have patience

[copperflame]

You are strong in your own way, lady. I give you more credit. You've endured plenty in life. <3