White/POC relationships in the Media.

[coniraya]

I believe I've talked to quite a few of you of the recent trend in having the POC family be the one with issues and not the white family. The white family is such a nice little liberal middle class family and of course they believe all people are equal but the POC family, well they have major issues with having a white boy (the man is almost always

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[delux_vivens]

you know, back when i was in, the, um situation we shall not describe in with the person we shall not discuss, i remember mentioning to people that i was nervous about getting attitude from other black people to some white folks. they were shocked and amazed that black people would have any kind of drama about a black woman with a white (appearing) man. i think the feeling was, 'well we're magnanimous not to have a problem with it so everone else should be fine with it too.'

[coniraya]

I feel like with my experience my mom and step-dad get flack from everyone but in regards to the family, my mothers' has never really seemed to care. I think it has to do with the fact that there has always been a lot of mixed marriages in that side of my family. I don't think it's ever been in an issue with them, my step-dads' family on the other hand...let's not even get into some of things they've said.

I realize not all POC are cool with the interracial dating at all, I actually got a lot of flack when I dated a white girl in high school from all sides, but I guess my own experience has always been that the reaction of white people often is much worse. Then again as I said the POCMale/WhiteFemale can bring out really different reactions and isn't shown as much in the media. I just think these movies and tv shows are painting it as "Well all the white families don't really have issues with it no more." and that's so not true that it's laughable.

Also good plan on not mentioning the who and the what, don't want to get me riled up

[delux_vivens]

I just think these movies and tv shows are painting it as "Well all the white families don't really have issues with it no more." and that's so not true that it's laughable.

well, poc who have problems w/ an interracial relationship can pretty much just say shit. white people w/ issues get to fall back on institutional power, like calling the police on a white woman's black bf because he's 'suspicious' or whatever.

Also good plan on not mentioning the who and the what, don't want to get me riled up again.

lol

[revelininsanity]

That's what bothers me about those movies!*privilege shows like a white slip under a red dress* Ya know, they do that with First Nations people in films, too, always with the First Nations people being worried, but then the white dude proves himself to be even "more spiritual than thou" and other such stupidity. I don't know if I make sense, but that really bothers me. I mean, it's like they're trying to downplay the First Nations people in the film.

Do I make sense, or am I just trying to push through my privilege again?

[coniraya]

You're making sense. It's the whole He can do it just as well if not better than the POC so why not accept him thing. I thing you see it all the time where the POC family thinks he just won't get it but inevitably he does and that makes it all hunky-dory again. This totally makes the film more about the white man co-opting culture than about the POC in the film.

[revelininsanity]

Cultural theft. And in a way it's sad, because this whole "culture" thing is another way of exoticizing People Of Colour, and also making white kids refuse to acknowledge their culture as A culture, replete with beliefs and belief systems, and so they try to steal other people's culture, like a vampire refusing to believe they won't burn in sunlight, and they can make their own blood cells. No, they need this one

[yeloson]

I hella just watched "Bend it Like Beckham" again last night. "I'm Irish, I understand..."

Ugh!!!

[coniraya]

I haven't seen "Bend it Like Beckham" at all now I feel I might have to see it. If they were being ironic and showing the stupidity of lines like that (which I hope they were) then I'll probably like it.

[yeloson]

The movie is really a perfect example of "Look at how progressive white people are compared to the backwards POC". Though, there is one scene with a white mom who pretty much sums up white patronizing to a T.

[coniraya]

The movie is really a perfect example of "Look at how progressive white people are compared to the backwards POC".

So maybe I won't fast track that to the top of my netflix queue. Maybe I won't see it at all, probably for the best.