Comments | concrtconcubine: Things could be worse but they still suck.

concrtconcubine

Things could be worse but they still suck.

Aug 13, 2012 15:33

I got a call from Max's camp today (first day of an afternoon-only camp about dinosaurs; he took an all-day camp about race cars at the same place last week). He hit another child and "knocked the wind out of him." He was sequestered and will be asked to sign a behavior contract. If he hits anyone again he will be expelled from camp ( Read more... )

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concrtconcubine August 13 2012, 23:38:43 UTC

And after signing the behavior contract he hit two more kids. I guess the main difference is he really loves cars (last week's camp) and is nowhere near as interested in dinosaurs, even though he told me he wanted to go to the camp and talked about it excitedly in the days leading up to it. I am hoping we can get part of our money back. Also not sure what disciplinary action to take beyond no more Xbox/TV for the rest of the day.

unhinged_one August 17 2012, 15:24:56 UTC

I keep wondering if the hitting thing is just a phase. Ian has certainly gone through his share and just when I think he's settling down, he gets in trouble again. I actually fear the beginning of the school year and how we roll back into the more structured environment and how Ian doesn't fall into line with the rest of the kids and gets into trouble. I don't look forward to the phone calls from the schools for either one of my boys. I always hope and pray that they won't happen, but I won't be surprised if they do given their track record. I'm sorry Max lost his temper. Hopefully things will settle down and run smoother in the future. I understand the frustration and worry. You hang in there hon. I wish I had some good advice to give but I don't feel qualified being that I have two boys of my own that I can't seem to get straight at the moment. ((hugs))

concrtconcubine August 21 2012, 16:06:22 UTC

I know that most kids hit others now and then at this age--Max has also been on the receiving end of such behavior a few times. But he seems to get stuck in "mean" mode once something triggers it, and it's really hard to get him out--which is why he kept hitting that day. Ugh.

Thanks for the sympathy and hugs! And good luck with the start of the school year.

concrtconcubine July 10 2019, 23:10:45 UTC

Just wanted to send past-me a reply from present-me, 7 years later, to tell myself that I am the best parent for this particular child. Some of these issues persist but they've gotten better, and I've become better informed and a way stronger advocate.

I do wish I could tell past me to switch schools sooner, but eh, better late than never I suppose. My kid still loves me and wants to hang out with me, and for that to be true of a 13 year old must be a good sign.