[STICKIED] Community Question Post #22

[theidolhands]

Each week we post a new question for the members of the community to answer! As usual, if you have a question you'd like to see answered by the community, leave it in a comment on this post.

theidolhands asks: "Have you ever quit a job because of a coworker? What was the final straw? Any news on the person (or individuals) after you left?"

Comments

[venatorrooc]

Yeup. My last job there was a coworker who told me herself that the previous three employees that worked there blamed her for leaving the job.

I didn't think anything of it until the day before I quit - she was telling me that I was doing a great job while simultaneously telling the boss/the boss's son-in-law (the one who didn't work there) that I was lazy, would abandon her in the kitchen, and was doing everything wrong/not improving.

Welp. Make that four ex-employees, you two-faced something-or-other.

[zelda_dragon]

At my previous job, I had a stalker who started getting so dangerous my only option was to quit, find a new job nowhere near her (and one she had no contact with), and get a new phone number. She does know where I live, which definitely still makes me nervous, but I haven't had the money to move yet. There is now an entire part of my town I can't go to because of her, since just catching a glimpse of my car will send her right back into full-on-stalker-mode.

[theidolhands]

Holy shit. That's one of the best reasons I've ever heard.

What does she claim (or does it seem) is the reason for her fixation?

In my experience and according the the show Stalkers, they only move on (sadly) when they've found a new person to fixate on and there is little anyone can do -- other than what you've done -- to shake their interest.

[zelda_dragon]

I honestly think it had a lot to do with a progressing mental illness. I'd known her for a very long time before she started behaving this way, and when she began getting ill I was the only one who stayed with her. She started attaching me to things in her head and then...well, it went sour. There's definitely a lot more to it than that, but there's the short version.

I decided I valued staying alive and cut ties as best I could. I would not be at all surprised if she finds someone else to fixate on in my place. I still freak if I think I see her, though. It got pretty scary there for a while.

[theidolhands]

I know exactly what you're talking about. I am so sorry that this was how your compassion and empathy was rewarded -- after many negative incidents, some not dissimilar to what you're describing -- I've had to learn more about mental illnesses and how to establish healthy boundaries for myself (not that I'm suggesting you have a similar struggle, that's just my cross to bear and it's not an uncommon one).

I also know what it's like to be left with PTSD or toxic stress once an incident like this passes, it leaves marks (despite having only wished well by the person who causes the leftover pain).

[_zox_]

I told my boss I was quitting after this co-worker e-mailed me a nasty letter basically listing all my faults, how insensitive I am (ironic), blaming me for losing clients, etc. And she pretty much made sure everyone was aware of this e-mail by copying the e-mail to an e-mail address everyone at work had access to. Then my boss, in an amazing move of workplace harassment/stupidity, decided to call everyone together and discuss the e-mail and the faults of all the "young" people (including myself) working in the office and have all the "older" people list the "younger" people's faults

[kharmii]

I semi quit Hardees after they got a new pm who hired a bunch of his friends, then promoted them to shift leaders ahead of me, even though I'd been there at least two years. I was on the evening shift. For some reason, the new people didn't like my personality, even though I was a hard worker and efficient at running everything, getting stuff done on my own initiative. They started making me ask permission to do stuff. IE: The ice in the soda machine would be empty. I would go back when there were no customers and get a bucket. They would say, "You didn't ask or wait for us to tell you to do that

[zelda_dragon]

There is nothing on earth more infuriating than having people who are totally worthless rise to a position of authority they didn't deserve, then shove it in your face.

I agree so much.

[theflyers]

People who live to extort every ounce of "power" they have like that are the lowest form of life.

"You didn't ask us first!", that's a form of bullying. That's power struggle at it's finest. These people are who are what give "management" such a bad reputation of just being vile assholes.

I'm glad that management changed and they quit because they couldn't act out like that. Ew, just ew.

[theflyers]

OT: but I really enjoy these stickied question posts, it was a fabulous idea!

I'm in the process of quitting my job due to coworker issues honestly. There isn't enough work to keep me busy and away from them. There is SO MUCH drama among full grown men. Over things like where a fan is placed or unplugging a heater.

Someone once left tampons on another guy's work station. I was livid because of the sexual harassment spin on it. I wasn't mad it was brought to my attention, I jumped quickly to address it. HOWEVER the person who had them left on his station refused to touch them and wanted me to specifically do it because I'm a girl and it was an omg wrapped, unused tampon...and I'm like "You wonder why people don't like you..."

[fallconsmate]

i snickered at the tampon thing...

because my daughter did a form of it. there were three people taking the same management course, with the exact same company-issued messenger bags to hold their notebooks, notes, etc. after 4 days of having HER pens disappear because the other two (men) were too lazy to dig in their own bags, she loaded every pocket in her bag with tampons and set it apart from the other bags as she had been doing all along.

when the first guy actually SCREAMED as he found tampons instead of a pen, she told him "that's what you get for putting your hands where they don't belong!" and the pen thievery stopped.

but yeah, that's an entirely different situation than what you described, holy cow what a goober that guy is!

[theflyers]

LOL! That's a great way to teach those guys a lesson for digging in her bag for her pens, I'm glad that it worked so well for her.

It reminds me of when I'd throw pads on top of everything in my purse so when I had to go through a security check at a concert, they'd stop digging around pretty quickly. Saved me from having to throw out my bottle of Advil and gum a few times. Seriously, some of those places make you throw out gum, argh I get it but it's overkill.

OMG I LOVE YOUR DAUGHTER

[theidolhands]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!

Also, mofos who don't bring BASIC SUPPLIES to classes are way up there on my pet peeve list. People who steal one's own supplies are on my F.U. list.

I'm mentally filing this away for everyone forever in case it can ever help them.

I do not understand what is so horrifying to men about menstruation, it is one of the very least fetishized aspects of women & a vagina (and believe me I've sampled quite a lot) but without menstruation -- which happens EVERY month of most women's lives for DECADES -- including their own mother they would not be on this planet.

Yet, women are the one's frequently accused of being emotional and irrational. Tut, tut.