Interesting post. I guess I'm like you, intimacy of sorts with another person other than your partner that goes past the platonic would be considered cheating. However, i understand that different people have different thresholds. For some, kissing is alright as long as there's no sex (that's not me though), so I believe what's important is to define boundaries between the two of them so they know clearly what is and is not acceptable in the relationship. What is considered cheating is subjective person to person. So depending on what your friend's partner would think about this behaviour of hers, it would or would not be considered cheating, would have been helpful if they'd talked about this before.
And are u back in melbourne? We should so catch up!
Yea, I agree with Wendy there. Everyone has a different perception of what constitutes 'cheating', and, unless you talk about it with your partner, chances are someone will get hurt. Well, someone usually does when one starts thinking about cheating..
Cheating by any other name, is still cheating
anonymous
October 7 2006, 02:36:13 UTC
Hi, this is my two-cents worth :) Honestly, I think your friend realizes that she is cheating on her partner. Why else would she be so secretive then, if it wasn't for a nagging guilty conscience that cannot and won't be explained away with the "no physical intimacy" clause she's used to remain innocent, for lack of a better word. Everything begins with baby steps, and your friend's steps are getting bigger towards the final destination: Cheating.
Re: Cheating by any other name, is still cheatingclumsy_kittenOctober 10 2006, 07:26:43 UTC
I'm going to have to agree with anonymous here as I do think that she has a guilty conscience and the measures that she is taken to hide the 'friendship' from her partner. An update on this is that her 'new friend' has now cut her off due to his own guilty conscience.
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Interesting post. I guess I'm like you, intimacy of sorts with another person other than your partner that goes past the platonic would be considered cheating. However, i understand that different people have different thresholds. For some, kissing is alright as long as there's no sex (that's not me though), so I believe what's important is to define boundaries between the two of them so they know clearly what is and is not acceptable in the relationship. What is considered cheating is subjective person to person. So depending on what your friend's partner would think about this behaviour of hers, it would or would not be considered cheating, would have been helpful if they'd talked about this before.
And are u back in melbourne? We should so catch up!
Wen
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Glad you joined the blogging community, babes! :D
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