Women Hate Video Games & Other Stupid Comments

[clearmind]

Wrote this for OKCupid and cross-posting here.Last night at a party, I was talking about a few other people about my video game history museum plans and trying out someone's copy of "I Love Katamari" on the iPhone. I went to get a snack and one woman at the party whom I barely know tells me that the reason I don't get laid is that I talk about

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[etoilepb]

You think it's bad? Heh, I don't exist!

The sad part is, it's not men who have a problem with women gamers. It's other women. A gigantic mess. Women think I'm a social degenerate and a waste of oxygen, but I've never had much trouble getting laid either. ;)

[clearmind]

I think this girl would say something to that effect if presented the opportunity. She's studying psychology so she feels she knows what she's talking about... Heh.

I didn't want to get into this deep of a conversation, but women like you who are deep into video games are, well, taken. You really proved that point this month (congratulations!)! So the pool is rather low.

Course, I also narrow the pool further by wearing a corset on a regular bases. Apparently I'm intimidating to women who think I look better in a corset than they would. On a related note, I have a great pickup line now: "Can you lace me in my corset?"

[etoilepb]

Well, yes, I am taken now (thanks!) but once upon a time I was a single female gamer. ;) But yes, I admit that geek girls have a much better guy : girl ratio when they're looking than the more "normal" type of women do, hehe.

[michalita]

I resent the "she's studying psychology so she feels she knows what she's talking about" comment. She might have a big head but that is not necessarily related to her field of study.

Her age/stage of life might give you more information.

[littlelotte]

I hate people who think a career is a hobby. I'm salary and I'm sick and tired of the "Are you a hostess?" "Are you the food runner?" "So are you in high school? College?" questions. And it's always men.

No. I'm the manager. I'm pretty, I'm female, I'm young (but not THAT young--seriously--the high school comment was tonight...I'm nearly a decade out of high school!), AND I RUN THE FUCKING SHOW!

[clearmind]

While the route is different between us, there's a common thread here. Dealing with one's inability to see themselves working in a particular form of work and their assumption it can't be done as a career for anyone.

This isn't to say every person must be ready to do anything ever in the world. Being able to see that others can make a living and be happy with it, is the difference at play here.

[fantom07]

I dunno - I think you're making a broad stereotype about women simply because she made what you perceived as a stereotypical comment about you

[mandaryn]

Might I add, she was also quite drunk and tends to say weird things when she is.

[michalita]

How does she even know how often you do and don't get laid? I suppose the part about being drunk and lacking impulse control make this question moot.

I do agree with fantom07 that it's far more important to talk to someone else about what they are interested in and themselves than to talk about yourself and your interests, unless your interests *happen* to be the same as hers. But that's just basic communication.

Furthermore, the ultimate goal is not "to get laid" but to create a connection with someone.

[pythos]

As a complete and utter aside -- I don't get the SQL joke.

Also: everyone makes generalizations. ;)

[oddharmonic]

The SQL joke is a query to find users (in an undefined database) with a clue; none are found.

(I live with a software developer. He makes coding references in everyday conversation.)