Aw hell.

[cielamara]

Just found out Daddy's got tickets to the hockey game Saturday night. Jesus fuck, it's the Eastern Conference playoffs, and they'll be GOOD seats. I was like, "HOLY SHIT HOCKEY GAME" and then I said, "Hey! You (to my mom) went to the last one, that means it's my turn this time!" And she said, "Like hell it is." And I said, "...That's what you said

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[cielamara]

Oh no, it's perfectly fair to say my mom is selfish. If she doesn't get exactly what she wants, she makes people pay for it. And she's gotten worse about this in the past few years. And at this point she KNOWS she can get away with guilt-tripping me, because she knows I have a tough time dealing with conflict in general, and familial disputes in particular. Extended family drama, whatthefuckever, but immediate? Jesus fuck, I can't deal with that shit. Not after what happened. I went through two very long and painful years with all that turmoil and unhappiness and lying and BULLSHIT going on while my mom was cheating on my dad, and I was stuck right in the fucking middle of it. I do not deal well with family drama now

[souldreamer]

*ROFL* Ouch! ;)

See, I'm the other way around. I'm the kind of person who would want to make a compromise. So, I totally feel your pain, cielamara. But I also agree with straysparrow that you should go to the game. And not just because it's a play-off game, but also that, despite how hard it is to face the passive-agressive conflict, if you don't put your foot down, she'll just keep using the tactic that she already knows works. I guess what I would do is go to the game and buy her a shirt or souvinere while there, to show that you were thinking of her. Thank you for letting you go, and tell her how much you appreciated the chance to see a playoff game. I'm not saying that will go over well with her, but it's the nice thing to do. And yeah, sometimes being nice really sucks.

[loototherah]

You say she knows how to play you like a fiddle. Time to change your tune, dear. You're not going to be home for too much longer anyway -- go to the game, take lots of pictures and put them on facebook for me to drool at.

It's time to turn the other cheek. You don't have to be openly bitchy to her, but ignoring her tactics, I think, is what you're going to have to do your best to try to do. This is her, going back on her word. You don't have to put up with that.

[cielamara]

I wish I just didn't get so anxious whenever I think people are upset with me.

Also: I will do my very best to take some photos. I wonder if they have rules about now cameras at the games.

[welshideefixe]

I don't understand watching hockey on TV, so I say go go go. Plus, even though your mom can be passively evil, I think the experience of seeing that important of a game live is worth it.

[cielamara]

It takes some getting used to, but if you watch it with other people, it's TONS of fun. You can shout and swear a LOT more, and throw shit at the TV to boot.

Re: This is said with all the love I feel for you.

[cielamara]

1) You're right. I sincerely don't know how not to react though. I mean, I don't just slink off, I usually try to confront it head on. Like tonight--I said to her, "Look. I don't want to fight over the hockey game. If you want to go THAT BADLY, then fucking go, because I know you'll do your best to make damn sure I don't enjoy myself if I do go." She doesn't like it when I call her out for being a guilt tripper. But she also doesn't respond. I cannot get her to engage in a productive conversation no matter what I try