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[cicatricex2]

fuck me i'm jealous.
How do you cope with jealousy? This is coming from someone who can't fake sincerity or
wipe boredom from her face. I wish i could rise above it like a hover car running on pollution.

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[dragonwine]

I have no idea how to cope with jealousy. When you figure it out please drop me a memo. :(

[vinnie_tesla]

One suggestion:

In my experience, usually the root of jealousy is perceived scarcity. That is to say: if you feel secure that you have enough food, and will continue to have enough in the future, you won't worry about hoarding food. If you feel concerned* about your food supply, others having food to which you feel entitled will stress you out.

Likewise, discomfort at a loved one paying attention to someone else generally marks a feeling of affection insecurity or scarcity. Now, that knowledge is certainly not a solution to anything, but it can provide a bit more clarity in figuring out how to work with it. If the relationship is intimate enough, explicitly asking for extra attention or verbal reassurance can help a lot.

* This is a totally subjective issue. Worrying about whether your concerns are "rational" is usually a waste of time.

[cicatricex2]

so the root of it might be insecurities... that's very interesting thank you.
And I can't help but worrying whether I'm being rational because I think that i'm being irrational half the time. Yeah it is a waste of time for all the good it does.