I have been exactly there with my own mom. And had to make the dnr/stop the resuscitation decision on my own since I am an only child and my parents were divorced.
Any support I can give you in terms of how I had to think about what *she* would have wanted in contrast to what *I* would have wanted, or just to talk to someone who's been there with all those conflicting feelings, write me directly jetteswan(at)yahoo dot com.
The hospital will have a social worker on staff. Ask to meet with them - they should be able to help you sort out the dude/car issue and other stuff too. You and your siblings/family shouldn't have to deal with that sort of crap on top of the emotional things.
And... how do I put this - you have your whole life to wrap your head around it... so for me, doing just what I needed to get through each moment and not trying to wrap my head around the situation was what was right for me at the time. Hope this makes sense.
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I'm so sorry, seriously. :/ I really hope everything gets better and that you'll be able to cope.
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Any support I can give you in terms of how I had to think about what *she* would have wanted in contrast to what *I* would have wanted, or just to talk to someone who's been there with all those conflicting feelings, write me directly jetteswan(at)yahoo dot com.
The hospital will have a social worker on staff. Ask to meet with them - they should be able to help you sort out the dude/car issue and other stuff too. You and your siblings/family shouldn't have to deal with that sort of crap on top of the emotional things.
And... how do I put this - you have your whole life to wrap your head around it... so for me, doing just what I needed to get through each moment and not trying to wrap my head around the situation was what was right for me at the time. Hope this makes sense.
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