I think the angry reaction comes about when people know that you're not going to change your mind. That's probably why I get that one more often than not, I neither look nor act like the motherly type. :-)
I get both reactions to the no-kids thing. I have never wanted kids. Ever. I didn't even play pretend mommy when I was a little girl. The concept feels completely alien to me - it is actually an effort for me to try to put myself in the position of a person who would voluntarily have children. Yeah, some people are freaked by that. But even my parents confirm that it's the one thing I've never changed, and they support me in my plans to get a tubal ligation in the next couple years. Though I've heard that it can be hard to find a doctor willing to do it on someone that young (I'll be 30 by the time I do it), because even they are sure that you'll change your mind. Sigh.
The concept feels completely alien to me - it is actually an effort for me to try to put myself in the position of a person who would voluntarily have children.
Yep, that's about where I am too. Don't get why anyone would willingly want to put themselves through that (less so those who do it more than once!). Which fact was driven home all the more when my sister was pregnant and I was the only female around who couldn't get into the magic and wonder of the whole thing.
my plans to get a tubal ligation in the next couple years.
I would've gone that route myself. Thankfully though, pregnancy is nothing I have to worry about! :-D
You've displayed a good understanding of Fertility, so this essay will certainly work. The problem is, it's not entirely about your understanding, nor is it all necessarily relevant.
Paragraphs 2 and 3 could probably be re-worked into other areas, if they're needed at all. They describe reactions to the idea that you might not want to have kids, rather than your understanding of Fertility.
I think that my primary suggestion here is that you go back over the essay and pick out what conveys that "understanding" of Fertility, and what does not convey it. That will probably slim down the essay a good deal.
And I like to see essays where people disagree with the choice of a virtue. Thanks :)
The DP Handbook says that you can suggest alternate termsYes, but if you suggest alternate terms *as virtues*, then you have to write a seperate virtue essay about them. If you're suggesting, for instance, that "fertility" is not a virtue but "productivity" is, then you will need to write an
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You've displayed a good understanding of Fertility, so this essay will certainly work.
Good, that was my biggest concern.
Paragraphs 2 and 3 could probably be re-worked into other areas, if they're needed at all. They describe reactions to the idea that you might not want to have kids, rather than your understanding of Fertility.Its hard to know how much personal stuff to add in. It was intended to be an explanation about why fertility as procreation has neither real world nor spiritual value for me. But you're right, its much longer than it really needs to be. I could probably edit those two paragraphs down to a brief four sentence explanation. Or get rid of it altogether
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Yep, that's about where I am too. Don't get why anyone would willingly want to put themselves through that (less so those who do it more than once!). Which fact was driven home all the more when my sister was pregnant and I was the only female around who couldn't get into the magic and wonder of the whole thing.
my plans to get a tubal ligation in the next couple years.
I would've gone that route myself. Thankfully though, pregnancy is nothing I have to worry about! :-D
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Of course there's a "but".
You've displayed a good understanding of Fertility, so this essay will certainly work. The problem is, it's not entirely about your understanding, nor is it all necessarily relevant.
Paragraphs 2 and 3 could probably be re-worked into other areas, if they're needed at all. They describe reactions to the idea that you might not want to have kids, rather than your understanding of Fertility.
I think that my primary suggestion here is that you go back over the essay and pick out what conveys that "understanding" of Fertility, and what does not convey it. That will probably slim down the essay a good deal.
And I like to see essays where people disagree with the choice of a virtue. Thanks :)
The DP Handbook says that you can suggest alternate termsYes, but if you suggest alternate terms *as virtues*, then you have to write a seperate virtue essay about them. If you're suggesting, for instance, that "fertility" is not a virtue but "productivity" is, then you will need to write an ( ... )
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You've displayed a good understanding of Fertility, so this essay will certainly work.
Good, that was my biggest concern.
Paragraphs 2 and 3 could probably be re-worked into other areas, if they're needed at all. They describe reactions to the idea that you might not want to have kids, rather than your understanding of Fertility.Its hard to know how much personal stuff to add in. It was intended to be an explanation about why fertility as procreation has neither real world nor spiritual value for me. But you're right, its much longer than it really needs to be. I could probably edit those two paragraphs down to a brief four sentence explanation. Or get rid of it altogether ( ... )
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