I think a lot of us feel like that. While I get no negative respones from the people in my close circle (I think they all agree that if you don't like children you should definitely not have them, they're pretty smart like that ;)), most of them do want or have children and I feel I should show them the respect they show me. But sometimes it's just nice to complain about kids and parents and the injustice of them being treated as special and what have you and here you can do that without trodding on someone toes.
You're not an outsider here :) And good luck with the surgery. For me my birth control is the only medication I take but I can imagine that it can be one med too many for some.
Welcome welcome! You certainly are not an outsider here. At any rate, the theory I always hold is that as it is your body no one else really has the right to dictate what is right and wrong for you to do. If you feel like you want a better life by getting off medication dependency, then go right ahead! Want to cover yourself in tattoos and piercings? Have a blast! Want to go skydiving without a parachute? Well, that's a different support group, but again, it's your body, so go fly, little bird!
Yeah, my doc is pretty great. He's been treating me for years, and I've always been adamant on the no kids thing, so when I brought up the surgery, he had no hesitations. Great guy!
I feel like I might have less issues if i could get off some of the medications, y'know? I'll try anything at this point :)
Being nervous is completely understandable. I felt so scared of the operation before it (even if I was completely sure it was what I wanted) that I even considered canceling the whole thing during my weakest moments. But fortunately I found the courage to go through it as the feeling of wholeness afterwards was so so rewarding. :)
I recently visited my doctor about meds and pointed out the antidepressants I had been taking had significantly changed my personality in a few months - from being resolutely childfree to 'ah, perhaps I'll chuck the contraception'. When I came off the meds I realised that I had dodged a path I really do NOT want to go down (and adopted three dogs instead).
He laughed and said 'The medication would have made you calmer and happier so you felt more able to deal with things.' and when I was leaving 'Ah, maybe you will have children anyway'. Not likely - said I.
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You're not an outsider here :)
And good luck with the surgery. For me my birth control is the only medication I take but I can imagine that it can be one med too many for some.
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It's nice to feel like I belong somewhere and that I'm not really that unusual for not wanting kids.
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Your doctor sounds like a good person too. :)
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He's been treating me for years, and I've always been adamant on the no kids thing, so when I brought up the surgery, he had no hesitations.
Great guy!
I feel like I might have less issues if i could get off some of the medications, y'know? I'll try anything at this point :)
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I'm sure it'll go well!
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I like this place, I feel like I belong. :)
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I recently visited my doctor about meds and pointed out the antidepressants I had been taking had significantly changed my personality in a few months - from being resolutely childfree to 'ah, perhaps I'll chuck the contraception'. When I came off the meds I realised that I had dodged a path I really do NOT want to go down (and adopted three dogs instead).
He laughed and said 'The medication would have made you calmer and happier so you felt more able to deal with things.' and when I was leaving 'Ah, maybe you will have children anyway'. Not likely - said I.
At least he prescribed me something different.
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Antidepressants aren't something I'm on, but I feel like my thought-process & moods are just another reason to be in the "no-kids" camp.
(Dogs are better anyways! :D)
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