That sucks so hard :( I can't tolerate the sound of children, so completely sympathise with you wanting a no-infant wedding. For a number of years I've said that in the unlikely event I ever get married, the only way kids are getting inside the building is if there are mandatory tranquiliser darts for them at the door. (I have looked for a suitable dart just in case, but apparently tranquilisers aren't suitable for humans, especially not children.)
Oh, and the icing on the cake (which I guess I'll have to deal with being ruined by brats too) is, when I pointed out how we're going to request his family with small children to use the childcare services and it wouldn't be fair, my mother straight up said "but they don't have to know".
Um, excuse u, but where I come from that's called a DOUBLE STANDARD. Boy, that'll be a great way to endear my new family to my present one, by acting like they don't matter as much.
It's your wedding. You are being way awesomer than I prolly would, I wouldn't provide onsite childcare, I'd just tell them to leave the kids at home :p
Honestly, no kid wants to go to a wedding. I don't know many adults who really want to go to a wedding, cuz it's not about the guests. It's about the two people getting married, the person doing the talky bits, and maybe the parents being all sobby. No one else!
We only got for cake, which you're providing for the adults and the kids!
Stick to your guns, politely inform people that childcare will be onsite and they will use it or leave. Ignore your mother (as much as you can) and go yell at your sister in law for saying one thing to your face and another behind your back. Then poke your brother with a stick.
Please tell me the cake is chocolate? And yes, I'm totally distracted by cake :p
I have a sister I don't get along with. If I never have to see her face or hear about her latest escapades she had on someone else's dollar for the rest of my life, I'd prolly be a happier person.
That said, when my other sister had her wedding, I debated whether or not I was going to go, since going would mean that I would have to put up with AnnoyingSister for several hours, and the family weas to be seated together (I didn't have the option of being seated away from the family and/or her). I went anyway. Why? Because it was my sister's day, and I wasn't going to start unnecessary drama because I don't get along with another family member
( ... )
Moral of this story: It's the bride and groom's wedding. You're going to the wedding to celebrate them and their bond with each other. It's not for someone else to take over and make into their own thing. If the couple have rules and stipulations about said wedding, everyone else has to deal with it, regardless of how they feel about it.
This, this and FUCKING THIS! I don't get how this can be hard to understand really. The day is about the Groom and the Bride and their relationship.
Not necessarily; I heard of a wedding in which the bride's (service?) dog was the ringbearer - carried it in a little pouch on its harness, apparently. Worked very well; dog delivered the ring and sat quietly until the end of the ceremony.
They are certainly entitled to their opinions, but it always amazes me how family forget it's YOUR wedding. It's your special day. YOU get to say what happens, not them. If your family wants to play dress up for the wee ones, have a special party for them. If I were you, I'd be tempted to elope
( ... )
Comments 42
Reply
Oh, and the icing on the cake (which I guess I'll have to deal with being ruined by brats too) is, when I pointed out how we're going to request his family with small children to use the childcare services and it wouldn't be fair, my mother straight up said "but they don't have to know".
Um, excuse u, but where I come from that's called a DOUBLE STANDARD. Boy, that'll be a great way to endear my new family to my present one, by acting like they don't matter as much.
Reply
Reply
Honestly, no kid wants to go to a wedding. I don't know many adults who really want to go to a wedding, cuz it's not about the guests. It's about the two people getting married, the person doing the talky bits, and maybe the parents being all sobby. No one else!
We only got for cake, which you're providing for the adults and the kids!
Stick to your guns, politely inform people that childcare will be onsite and they will use it or leave. Ignore your mother (as much as you can) and go yell at your sister in law for saying one thing to your face and another behind your back. Then poke your brother with a stick.
Please tell me the cake is chocolate? And yes, I'm totally distracted by cake :p
Reply
Reply
That said, when my other sister had her wedding, I debated whether or not I was going to go, since going would mean that I would have to put up with AnnoyingSister for several hours, and the family weas to be seated together (I didn't have the option of being seated away from the family and/or her). I went anyway. Why? Because it was my sister's day, and I wasn't going to start unnecessary drama because I don't get along with another family member ( ... )
Reply
This, this and FUCKING THIS!
I don't get how this can be hard to understand really.
The day is about the Groom and the Bride and their relationship.
Reply
Reply
Reply
Reply
Reply
Reply
Reply
T
F
??
it is the OP's day, NOT the mother's or even *gasp* SiL's and her BAYBEE's
sounds like the OP would be better off having a civil union at the local courthouse, less fuss, less muss and parents don't have to be invited.
tho if mumsy is already pitching a fit *now* about the baybees, she's going to be bingoing the couple right and left :(
she already has a grandchild via the OP's brother, she should be happy with those kids!!
sounds like OP's family is a real winner, that they don't view her as anything but a walking womb :(
*HUGGLES*
hope you're adopted by many many furkids!!
Reply
Leave a comment