It's so difficult and it never gets easier. Even when you've been through it, no two break ups are ever the same and so you never really 'learn' how to let go and get over the loss. You just have to wait it out.
I can so identify with that! One of the ways I knew I was truly out of love with a previous relationship was the total lack of desire to check his social media :)
It's so true! When my last relationship ended, I couldn't help myself and I checked up on his social media ALL the time and I hated myself for it. Then I'd notice I went a few days without thinking about it, then a week, then a month. Eventually, I got to the point where I actively DIDN'T care or want to know what he was up to and then I was able to really move on.
This fits the prompt so perfectly. I've totally been in this situation before - tempted to look at ex's profiles and knowing I'm better off not doing it. Very relatable entry!
I think it's such a unique experience that our generation shares. I do believe in the ~out of sight, out of mind theory, but the existence and accessibility of social media makes it so easy to "see" the person we're missing and really holds us back from moving on.
What a perfect and contemporary use of this prompt! Well done! This is a pretty universal experience and you brought such an individual voice to it that it made it that much more real. Painful and then finally that pain beginning to lessen and fade....when the healing can begin.
Thank you. It is definitely a unique experience that our generation shares and it really slows the moving on process when it's so easy to check in on the person we're missing. Social media has really presented a lot of unexpected problems and while I did grow up as it was on the rise, I'm thankful that I'm not in high school now when it's used SO heavily.
Though this is fiction, I see it's based on past experiences. I've fallen down that rabbit hole myself. Once I spent I don't know how much time looking through an ex's Facebook page, trying to find pictures of his wedding, which he had used as a cover photo very prominently only a year or so previously (when he tried to friend me). I was shocked and somewhat horrified that he not only appeared to have removed all photos of her but to have deleted any posts relating to her or to their relationship. It began to make me wonder at my own sanity!
In these days, it's odd how relatively easy it is to keep tabs on ex's long distance; there's no wonder that self-destructive habit is so widespread.
Social media had really presented a lot of unexpected problems and I don't envy young people growing up with it right now. When my last relationship ended, I spent so much time fighting myself, trying to keep myself from checking up on him. Logically, I knew I wasn't helping myself move on, but break ups are SO difficult and the process of letting go is not a simple feat.
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That gradual letting go... though we know we shouldn't, its part of the process of grieving the loss.
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In these days, it's odd how relatively easy it is to keep tabs on ex's long distance; there's no wonder that self-destructive habit is so widespread.
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