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[chaos_wrangler]

Within a couple of days I saw this post and a couple of links on FB to women's first person accounts of being harassed at cons apparently just for being female and physically there, and I started thinking about all the time I've spent in fandom, whether at cons or other gatherings, and how I don't recall ever being treated as "less than" or as an

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[batyatoon]

I don't know, but I'm in almost exactly the same position.

I can think of exactly one incident that took place in a fannish context where I suspected, in retrospect, that I had been dismissed and belittled for being female. At the time I was just startled and slightly confused, and only later thought "... dammit, was that because I'm a girl?" And it's been several years now and I'm still not sure.

So ... yeah, I don't know. Given my own tendencies I'd be inclined to choose (2) in my case, because my obliviousness is a byword in these parts, but that doesn't seem to quite work in your case -- I've never known you to be socially oblivious.

[ladymondegreen]

It's a really good question. There is a degree to which I think I was either oblivious to some of this for a really long time, or I was just really lucky in selecting for a crowd that doesn't do this stuff