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[celticangyl]

Ok.. apparently there was even more that I didnt know about my so called "friend" All of this has been bugging me and it upset me a friendship went down the drain. Well I am at a loss for words. Brian and I were talking and apparently one night she had asked him what he was doing, he told her he was on the computer, she responded with an

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[cristy24]

That's crossing a line there. How wrong. :(

Yep still not knowing who it is. Come on a little hint?

[celticangyl]

lol I thought everyone would figure it out... we were inseperable from the day we met... and no it's not Christie, makayla's mom... she would NEVER EVER cross that line ever... she's someone from the mom's list, alot of people didn't particularly care for her but tolerated.

[annietopia]

You are really taking the high road on this one. I am not sure I would be so nice. I might be willing to forgive my husband, and I could even accept his reasoning for not telling me about the conversation. Not sure I would agree with him, but I guess I can see the reasoning. Your friend, though...not so much. I do agree that you reap what you sow and karma can be a very nasty lady sometimes BUT I don't think I could forgive. I guess if he propositioned her and they went back and forth, I would be more angry at him...but she offered it to him so my anger would be more on her. I don't know.

I am not sure I know who this friend actually is...I have some guesses but they are only guesses and I respect that you are not using names. Maybe just count your blessings that this relationship is over and move on.

[celticangyl]

It may sound corny however since being in church, it's changed my attitude and outlook. I can't change what happened. Innocent or not, flirting or not, it crossed the line. I've been thinking about what you said Annie, that I'm taking the high road. When I was apart from brian, I stepped away from church the day after my baptism, i drank and spent alot of time in bars and did some things I'm not so proud of. One night we went out and I got so drunk that I threw up for hours. I managed to drive to the trailer cuz i knew brian would be there and take care of me. She wasn't going to. And while brian was at work I sat and thought about things. What a dark evil place I had turned to. And when I think about her and her life, drinking constantly to the point i seriously think she has an alcohol problem. She doesn't have her kids full time (I only mean not having the joy and love of your children 24/7) I just watched her life spiral. And I thought how easy I could have taken the same path. What I'm saying is I won't be friends

[pamasmith]

I think your anger should be more geared towards her. I know men don't always think the same way we do. He probably thought, well, I didn't do anything, so it is all good. I am never amazed at what friends will do. I definitely think she crossed the line. I think your handeling things quite well! I probably would have flipped out on her. Although, she probably would deny it, or turn it around on Brian. Just don't let this get between you and Brian. You guys have worked hard to get this far!!

[celticangyl]

I am very very angry with her. Brian doesn't think the same way I do..and I was glad he turned it around on her and asked her what I'd think about it. So that's probly part of why he didnt think much of it. And you're right she probly would deny it (but it'd be hard to do that cuz I've seen her do things along that line before) or like you said, blame brian or say he was lying. WHy would he make something like this up? He has nothing to gain. So that wouldn't work for me... You are right though, we have worked hard to get this far. Counseling and meds and alot of honesty. We are blunt and to the point honest... better to deal with the hurt of being honest than the hurt of deception. We've had a "revolving door" relationship i'll give ya that. But I'm finally happy with him. Communication and Honesty... that is what holds us together. There is nothing we can't work through. Thanks for the support =)

[sinkingfurther]

OMG. i really think you shouldn't forgive her and you should be less mad at him. did he go watch? if so, be mad at them both. if not. FORGET her and move on. (in my humble opinion. and we all know how wonderful i am at relationships. heh)

[celticangyl]

No he didn't go watch lol... never found her all that attractive actually. I would make comments on how much prettier she was than I, and he would always say uhm, no.

About forgiveness....I wont get into religion... but if I dont forgive and let go, when I stand before god, I dont want to be judged for not forgiving. I guess I can forgive because I know deep down what comes around goes around... me not forgiving is the least of her worries lol...

And dont knock relationships girlie... you are an awesome friend who would never cross that line..ever...

[sinkingfurther]

well then forgive her then never speak to her again. :)
(or not. but i certainly wouldn't be leting her in close to my heart again)
i meant men/women relationships. no you're right i would NEVER do something like that to a friend. i know where lines are drawn and i usually draw a line somewhere 3 feet before it. I know i'm a horrible friend when it comes to staying in touch, but when it comes to things like that, i'd like to think i'm a pretty damn good friend.