I'm not telling anyone what they can and can't like/read/write, first of all. Just to make that plain. Nor am I saying that if you like the following, I think less of you. It's not directed at anyone in particular nor inspired by any specific fics. This is just me being peevish, okay?
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Yes. Marriage isn't what it once was, despite the desperate efforts of a few radical conservatives to pretend they can turn back the clock. So it seems to me that the terminology should be rethought. This is one reason why I refer to my husband as SO when I mention him in posts; I don't hide that he is male or that we are legally married but I don't want to emphasize that. If that makes sense.
I don't know all that many same-sex couples in RL just now, but I can't think of any who use husband/wife (though with such a limited sample it's not meaningful). The woman I know best refers to the other woman in the relationship as her partner, and that seems just fine.
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I agree, they could just live together permanently and not worry about it, or worry about what other people might expect. Unless there's some legal provision for gay marriage in the wizarding world, which seems very unlikely to me. So why use terminology that doesn't apply?
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lottelita found only one mention of homosexuality in canon -- she cites it up thread here.
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Some states have laws that allow non-clergy to apply for authority to perform marriage ceremonies. For example, California law permits anyone to apply for permission to become a Deputy Commissioner of Marriages for the day. There are also entities like the Universal Life Church that legally ordain anyone who has a few bucks regardless of their religious beliefs, or lack thereof. Then there are weddings performed by judges, JPs or court ( ... )
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I felt I could make the lifelong commitment, and so I was willing to do it. One of my sets of grandparents have been married 65 years, and the other set nearly 64 (they're all still alive) so I know it's possible from seeing it in my family (my parents' own divorce notwithstanding). Now, things may change in the future, but... I do also want to have a kid or two, if possible. And I live in the Bible Belt through no fault of my own. And I'm pragmatic, and socially speaking, it's still better to be married than not especially if you're having kids.
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And no, "husband" and "marriage" aren't inherently religious terms, but they carry a lot of religious baggage with them. Which I don't like. Personal preference, as I said.
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