So....

[catgoddess]

I just want to say that yesterday's post wasn't for attention. I was just really pissed and hurt 'cause a certain someone hadn't bothered to contact me in four days. That person knows who they are so don't ask, k? I'm alright now. I did my own form of meditation for a bit and was alright about an hour after I posted that

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[lost_angel]

I'm sorry that your feelings were hurt.

I am saying this only out of concern, so please understand that I am not trying to be critical. These hurt feelings seem to happen to your fairly regularly. I have a couple of questions. Did the other party know, i.e. was the expectation clear, that s/he was supposed to contact you? Do you wait for them to contact you or do you reach out yourself to get in touch with them? Is the communication one-sided, with you always reaching out to the other person and rarely getting a response or do you have the expectation that s/he should be the one to get in touch with you?

[catgoddess]

I'm usually the one that starts conversations. I've emailed him a few times and only got a couple of responses. When I talked to him on Thurs. he promised to let me know how his weekend went.....they were supposed to have a big office party and I wanted to known how it was. I've been told that I should wait for him to get in touch with me, but knowing him how I do, if I do that it'll never happen.

[lost_angel]

If he has promised to get in touch with you and doesn't, it is a clear indicator (to me at least) that he does not reciprocate the same feelings as I have. It hurts to be ignored or left hanging, but when that happens, it's better to get up and move on. They'll come around when they're ready, and if not, you're better off without them.

I don't expect my attitude about things to work for everyone else, but I know that it bothers me to see you get your feelings hurt like this. You are the keeper of your heart, and only you can control who is worth your tears.

[catgoddess]

Thanks for worrying about me :) Really I wouldn't worry about him so much if it wasn't for this weird connection we have. Normally I would just get up and move on. I keep thinking one day he'll miss me and start contacting me as much as I try to contact him now. It's just hard when you're halfway across the world from someone. Anyway, yeah....
Thanks for the advice. *Hug*