Comments | carnbear: My thought-vomit.

carnbear

My thought-vomit.

Jan 30, 2009 14:50

Normally I would make a quick note of my feelings on Plurk, but I felt like a journal entry may be appropriate because at least I could get a decent reply without it being bound by minimalistic response count limiters ( Read more... )

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carnbear January 31 2009, 00:47:22 UTC

It would be a tragic shame if this really was just the norm. I think that I take some small comfort in the fact that somewhere, some lucky sod is getting everything he expected out of his transition into full adulthood and it gives me hope that something I can do can correct this.

From reading Mikes comment, I think that we may be onto something, so all I can say in return is that I am sorry if you are seeing the same situation in your life too hon. Again though I have to admit I have a lot of good things going for me in tandem with my concerns so it is not all bad.

I think we just need to focus on those things while we deal with the socially inept side of our lives!

*hugs back*

coverguy January 31 2009, 00:42:55 UTC

You know, the occasional miniature game nights were started by Todd and I for the same reason: guy nights to have a beer and talk about games in a like-minded atmosphere. Todd has been ill as of late, but you are more than welcome to come and join in on a regular basis. The eventual idea was that once we were good enough at the game to not need the manual, we would go join up at Outer Planes and play against other people too.

I completely understand what you mean though about the social neglect (I've certainly felt it too), and I kind of think it comes from the married/living with girlfriend scenario. You just have to figure in some time away, and realize it's okay to do so.

carnbear January 31 2009, 00:49:42 UTC

Then perhaps we should do that man. I think I have been so out of the social scene that starting with just a few people I know would be a good primer to meeting up with other like-minded people with similar tastes.

Although I don’t think that our background current situation is the same, I certainly can empathize with the feeling that somehow going out and having my own circle would be bad. I don’t want Falon to feel excluded form my life in any sense, but at the same time, I don’t want to jeopardize the great relationship I have with her by cracking one day and flying off the handle.

It’s a hard line to walk IMHO.

coverguy January 31 2009, 01:12:18 UTC

Okay, my situation is completely, and utterly different, even when I was under the matrimonial classification., but I do understand the guilt of wanting to hang out, but not necessarily with with your wife.

We're setting up a game night as soon as Todd is 100% well, so I'll keep you in that loop.

We could even go out and do something completely manly and awesome too. Would there be any other martial arts that you would be interested in aside from kendo?

ext_163410 February 6 2009, 18:00:46 UTC

They say you can't have everything go right at once - something has to give, but really give yourself a break!

How are you going to feel like you're doing anything right at work if you keep putting yourself and your abilities down? Do you think the other guys you work with are that critical of themselves? I rather think they massage their own egos - amazing what a little bit of confidence can do!

thereaperman February 8 2009, 18:20:56 UTC

Blimey! I visit LJ once in a blue moon...and THIS is what I get! ?!? Hehe, sounds just like my thought processes. At least you wrote them down for me. Means I dont have to. Because I'm lazy :D I too have no social life as work eats all my time , and when I finish I just want to get home and chill. But I'm working on it...

Keep the Faith Brother!