That sounds logical. Fair and balanced does not always equal doing the same thing for both. Each child is different, so there are times when you have to do different things with each of them. That said, you also need to watch for their reactions. If they perceive your actions as unfair or favoritism, it can be very hurtful and even lead to problems later with low self esteem and feeling like they are "not good enough." I don't think there is much danger of that reaction in this case, though. Livvie is consistently getting prizes. This is just a heads-up to watch her reactions if Sam starts getting prizes every day and she still has to wait until the second day.
Sounds like a good thing to try! I would make one suggestion though - which may be worthless. I would avoid using the term "accidents" if you're punishing them. He might end up terrified of other kinds of accidents (spilled milk or a broken toy) that you wouldn't necessarily want him to be punished for. Just a thought though. I hope it helps with the pooping. I know you guys are trying everything and you will help him sort it out! Good luck.
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That said, you also need to watch for their reactions. If they perceive your actions as unfair or favoritism, it can be very hurtful and even lead to problems later with low self esteem and feeling like they are "not good enough."
I don't think there is much danger of that reaction in this case, though. Livvie is consistently getting prizes. This is just a heads-up to watch her reactions if Sam starts getting prizes every day and she still has to wait until the second day.
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