Great advice, I will follow this myself

[cannotspell]

Home for the holidays. The very image can cause us to develop excruciating holiday back spasms, sometimes as early as September-because the cliché of familial holiday bliss has an evil twin: that of the dysfunctional family at its worst. For the legion of CDFs (Children of Dysfunctional Families), don't assume that you can't enjoy family gatherings

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[drlaurac]

Wowie, I never managed that with my parents!

[cannotspell]

Me either! I was always in search of approval,for, my weight, my over emotional responses to life, my flair for the dramatic, my love of art, being a artist, being dyslexic ...none of these parts of me ever felt accepted, respected, understood. They sure shit did not admired those things.

I spend so much wasted time trying too justify to them what I was or wanted in life. I had their love, that was not in question. I needed to feel respect of and for those parts of me.

imagine my surprise to realize, Because they raised me I felt the same way about art, drama, weight, and over emotional reactions...I really needed my own approval, not theirs!!!So damn easy to see after a life time. I still have hick-ups and forget that it was my desire for "them to change", that kept me from doing the changing.