'Twas a slight disaster for my six year old bundle of nerves...

[candesgirl]

Disclaimer:  I love my son, Peter, the six year old bundle of nerves I speak of in the title, more than I can possibly ever convey here through the might power of the internet.  It should just be assumed that he is my world.

So Peter had his big debut this morning,  a local recreation department community theater production of Peter Pan.  He was

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[justinej]

Love, as one who cannot and would not cope with even one child, I think you're doing a brilliant job.

When I think back to what we were all like as kids and how we were shoved out the door and made to get on with it, much as I think it's brilliant that we are more sensitive to our kids and their problems, we're also doing yourselves in by blaming ourselves for everything that comes along and feeling the need to be everything to our modern generation of kids. If that makes sense?

*hugs*

[candesgirl]

Thanks honey. You are so right, when we were kids, I know when I was anyway, my mom just sort of told me to get up and dust myself off, you know? Sent us out to play in the summer after breakfast and told us not to come back till dinner. Maybe there was something to that, to letting them figure it out on their own sometimes. It totally makes sense and thank you for listening to me, this was not my best day!

*hugs back*

[harwhon]

First of all, I don't even know your kid, but after reading this, I might love him too

[candesgirl]

Tiring is the right word, soooo the right word! And it is definitely underestimated, working with and living with children I mean. Wow, you spent the week entertaining and teaching some six year olds, the English language no less which is hard enough for some adults to grasp. You get a hug just for being that person, love.

I am definitely just human, and my son lets me know quite frequently that he is his own boss, which is as it should be! He is quite opinionated and the first to tell me(or you or anyone!) what he is feeling and when, and I think that is what did today in, he was overwhelmed and just had no other way to express it.

Thanks honey, so much, for 'listening' to me and for what you said, I take it all to heart, I really do.

*hugs*

[dragonlit]

*big hugs for you*

And let me start off by saying that I have seen you with Peter and how you deal with him and I think you are doing an amazing job. You might not think so because you get frustrated and don't know what to do next but believe me, you are doing just fine by that boy of yours. The best think you can do for him is exactly what you are doing - listen, acknowledge that he feels like he does and try and help him figure out how to cope. You may not have all the answers but together you can figure it out.

And woman, you are allowed to be frustrated at not knowing everything. It's called being human. You are not a Time Lord. :) Well, okay, they might not know everything either but as the Doctor has pointed out, he is brilliant. Even he didn't manage to figure out how to be a parent. Lol!

Too bad the meltdown overshadowed the fun recital though. I suspect that the more often he does these kinds of things, the better it will be for him, dealing.

[candesgirl]

Thank you honey, so much. I am glad someone thinks I am doing an amazing job! Today I didn't feel it, not at all, but more than that, today was the first time I really saw how different Peter can be, you know? I accept him as is, but do other people? That was really sticking with me all day and leaving a bad taste I tell you.

What do you mean I'm not a Timelord? Are you sure? I feel like an alien!

[fngrcufs]

Sweets! Here is why you are a great mom and a far better mom than people like you know who. What did you do when your child melted down in public? Yell at him, give him that 'shut the hell up look', take him aside and tell him big boys don't cry? No. You let him be him, and let him know you were there for him. You accepted him as is, face value, flaws in all. Which, quite frankly, is as much as any of us should expect, and far more than most of us get from our parents

[candesgirl]

Oh trust me, as you know I have had my "what the hell" moments and looks, but today was just different, today was that day that you see the way other people look at your kid and you say to yourself "shit, don't look at him that way, who are you to judge" I just sat there in the hallway with him and let him cry and then got him outside and let him cry there too. He was overwhelmed, I know that, and this was his reaction to it. And you know, when I asked him if he wanted to take any more classes he said "yes, I do, I really had a lot of fun" Go figure.

You're right, you always are, and this is why I love you : ) And this is why Peter and Jonah may well be married one day I tell you : ) They are two special kids, different in the best sort of way I think.

Let me know in the morning about going in to Boston, and if not no biggie, we have lots of plans for the week now : )

And I love you too!

[evilawyer]

Oh, the poor little guy! But the reason he was crying is just so wonderful. To have a son who appreciates things like that --- you are a lucky mamma. Thank you for sharing this event.

[candesgirl]

I really am a lucky mama, and I think it all the time, like now when he isn't here and I realize how much I miss when he isn't here! Always the way : ) Thank you so much for listening to me, I really appreciate it. I really do!