No words...

[cabaiste84]

So, uh, it would seem my Dad is having another kid. As I found out by accident via Jane, my ex-stepmother and Henry and Rose's Mum, this evening

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[uberreiniger]

No one should have to find things like this out secondhand. I'd say you have every right to be angry at him for hiding it.

[cabaiste84]

Yup. I'm pretty effing furious, actually. I plan on sending my father a very heavily worded email in the next few days. Which he'll probably ignore, but hey.

[abitunlikely]

There really is nothing worse than finding important information out second-hand. I mean, wow. It's so much easier to just be up front and tell the truth, even if it is shocking or hurtful. But at least it's the truth, coming from the right person.

And what the hell is wrong with men. Can't they keep it in their effing pants?!

[cabaiste84]

With my Dad, I am always the last to know. I was the last to know that my stepmum was pregnant with my brother (as in my mum, and a lot of her friends knew before I did). I was the last to know Dad and his current partner were engaged. And...I'm pretty damn sure I'm the last to know this time around. I mean, geez, it would have been grand if he'd at least given me the heads-up that they were at trying for a baby. But, no. As always, I'm kept in the dark for as long as possible.

But, y'know. Me, I'm just an old relic from Dad's former life, several wives ago. If he could just forget me, and carry on with life with his new partner, her daughter and this new baby, I'm pretty sure he would. Well, that's how I feel now, anyway.

And what the hell is wrong with men. Can't they keep it in their effing pants?!See, that's the thing with Dad. Just as he thinks he's ready to shut up shop (I know he was happy to stop at me, once upon a time), he keeps finding younger and younger partners. Partners who still want kids, even if he doesn't. This

[cynima]

Wow. Whoa. WHOA. WTF is going ON this week?!?!?!

[cabaiste84]

I feel deeply hurt and betrayed by this. But, then, I've been hurt and betrayed by my father for over half my life. So, why am I surprised? Right now, I feel like curling up and crying, or smashing something, or both.

I just saw your post. I'm so sorry. *HUGS* Will leave a comment soon.

[bojojoti]

It's too bad your father isn't as interested in being a part of his children's lives as he is in bringing more children into the world.

I grew up in a family of five children; we all have the same mother, but there were four "fathers." I promised myself, when I was a little girl, that I'd never put my children through such a thing.

[cynima]

"It's too bad your father isn't as interested in being a part of his children's lives as he is in bringing more children into the world."

Well said.