I want to sleep with common people...like you

[cabaiste84]

This was in the news yesterday:

237 Reasons To Have SexInteresting. The actual article in the paper had a "He Says/She Says" coloumn for the most common reasons for having sex...and "I was in love with the person" only rated about 7th or 8th for both blokes and chicks. Hmmmm

Comments

[sapphires13]

Sex is in no way the most intimate thing two people can do. Where love is involved, cuddling is more satisfying. But lust and sexual desire leads to sex, simply put.

When I was younger, before I ever considered myself ready for sex, I probably was likely to make out with guys because I was at a place in my head where I felt that if I could get a guy to want me, that I could validate myself, because: if he wants me, then I'm wanted, then I'm not horrible. So yes, I get that perspective, although by the time I actually started having sex, I'd matured to the point of being able to love myself without caring what others thought about me, and I'm glad for that.

I do agree with the statement in the article about women having sex because they want to pleasure their partner. While the feminist in me says that women have absolutely no obligation toward men, I've found that it's incredibly satisfying and empowering to get a guy off.

[cabaiste84]

Where love is involved, cuddling is more satisfying

Uh-huh. And that is what I miss most. Being held. If I die a virgin, so be it. But just a simply kiss and a cuddle would be so beautiful and so amazing right now. :(

I probably was likely to make out with guys because I was at a place in my head where I felt that if I could get a guy to want me, that I could validate myself, because: if he wants me, then I'm wanted, then I'm not horrible.Yup. And, at the not-so-tender age of almost 23, that's exactly the head-space I'm in. When I was in high school, being attractive to the fellers didn't matter quite so much as it did for other girls. All that mattered to me then was my schoolwork and my dancing. I don't think I really started craving male attention until I went away to university. And now here I am, in my early 20s, with a whole bunch of mates already married, waiting for one more measely snog to prove to myself that I'm not completely dried up and worthless. Blah blah blah emo

[imaginary_men]

Why would you want to cash in the v card when it's the highest card you can play?

[screendoor3]

Well, when your going on 23 and can't even get/keep a bf/gf...yeah.

[imaginary_men]

So? I'm going on 23 too.

C'mon people. Stop accepting the lie. Because if that's all you see yourself worth, that's all you will be worth.

[screendoor3]

It's not really self-worth as much as it is missing the boat. 20>30>40, or so they say. Most of my friends "cashed in their v-cards" when they were in their mid-teens, so it is really awkward for me.

I agree that the moral character of mainstream society is declining, and has been for a long time. It's just that all the good women are either already taken or holding on to unrealistic ideals like I am.

[screendoor3]

When do hormones not "run rampant"? They say that about nearly every age group between 10 and 30. Menopause? It's so annoying.

My love and sex lives are like Harry Kim's, and Geordi LaForge's. If you don't get the analogies, it's bad, really flippin' bad.

I know how you feel.

And people are vain, shallow, superficial, controlled by habit, and are generally slaves to emotions and sensual pleasure. Sex, it seems, is usually initiated due to those reasons.

[cabaiste84]

When do hormones not "run rampant"? They say that about nearly every age group between 10 and 30.

I think what the article was getting at is that people's attitudes towards sex and love change as they get older. And, of course, people's attitudes to sex are determined by their culture, their upbringing, exposure to particular medias...all kinds of things. That said, I'm not sure how reliable this survey is...but hey, food for thought.

My love and sex lives are like Harry Kim's, and Geordi LaForge's.

Who? Enlighten me...

I know how you feel.

*sigh* It's tough. Real tough. Esepcially when there's such a heavy emphasis on romantic relationships in today's society, and the general message the world and the media puts out is that no-one will ever be anyone without the proverbial "other half". Hence the lie imaginary_men was talking about

[screendoor3]

think what the article was getting at is that people's attitudes towards sex and love change as they get older. And, of course, people's attitudes to sex are determined by their culture, their upbringing, exposure to particular medias...all kinds of things. That said, I'm not sure how reliable this survey is...but hey, food for thought.

Survey says: People = retarded.

Who? Enlighten me...
Star Trek characters who never had girlfriends save an episode or two, like the time Geordi fell for the hologram of the designer of the Enterprise, Leah Brahms...

Esepcially when there's such a heavy emphasis on romantic relationships in today's society, and the general message the world and the media puts out is that no-one will ever be anyone without the proverbial "other half".

No, the message is be as stupid as you can and have as much sex as you can.

I just scare away women, or come off as too sweet and kind.

All my friends are women who aren't attracted to me.

I used to think there was time.

Never heard the song.

[imaginary_men]

Look, all you need to know is that there are both women and men out there who were willing to hold out for the ideal, and who have seen the results.

Keep getting out there, live your life, and meet people, while trying not to let finding a partner be the focus. And you must keep going, despite the odds.

Because that's when you find the something better, and there IS time.

When you least expect it...

[mlfoley]

You're more than welcome to do so here with me then.

[miriamus]

Personally I'm just glad to see that the lists are nearly identical. Modern woman isn't the regressive approval-hungry slave to men's sex drives that some people would have us believe.

What I DO object to is the way it's implied to Westerners now that there is nothing to life but sex. Man, woman, whatever. It's all more sex, better sex, who's having sex with whom, sex.com. I get the impression that much of youth christianity is simply !!no sex!!. Advertising = sex. Cars = sex. Music = sex.

Sex is just ONE thing in life. I get fulfillment from plenty of other things apart from my sexuality too, thanks.

[cabaiste84]

I agree with all of this, except for...

I get the impression that much of youth christianity is simply !!no sex!!.

That isn't necessarily true. But, I'm not in the mood to argue, and I guess I'll talk about it with you tonight. *shrig*