(I babble a lot....)diannelamercMay 10 2013, 23:53:31 UTC
At the advice of, well, everybody at Escapade in 2012 Lizbet and I hit Aphrodite's--a little lingerie shop a few blocks from the hotel that knows what they're doing.
Now I was a 36C until college, when I slid into a 36D for the longest time, until I finally had to admit I was a ("huge") 38DD.
I went into Aphrodite's and said "38DD" and the sales chick said "Oh, no..." over her shoulder as she hit the stock. I honestly didn't know if this was a "no, bigger" or like the time I was 15 and doing a summer "class" at I. Magnin's department store* and it would be "Oh god no, you're not that big!"
She came out with a 38G just from eyeing me walking in the door. (Turned out the 38H fit better.)
I honestly never had any idea that the gore was supposed to touch the skin. I thought it made a handy pocket by design (although it worked better as a sunglass hanger, because things were prone to falling right through on me).
lizbetann had never understood celli and me complaining about shoulder pain. A few weeks before the Aphrodite's trip she and I tried on
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Re: (I babble a lot....)butterflykikiMay 11 2013, 00:03:07 UTC
Seriously! The gore, that is to connect the underwires, right? WHY WOULD IT LIE FLAT?
I was telling Perri this, and about how the straps? Finally lie flat. Instead of like window awnings or something. WHAT THE HELL, BRA INDUSTRY.
The 36G's fit great for about 2/3 of my breasts; it's just the top third is loose, a little empty, so I may check out the 36F's and see if they fit okay.
Plus! Plus plus! The ones on HerRoom have what they call "leotard" backs-- my shoulders slope down precipitously, with the straps falling off all the time. The leotard backs are U-shape that means they don't do that. *headdesk
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I wish this worked. I really wish this worked. And maybe I'm in a snit about this, because I went bra shopping today... But I went bra shopping with a measuring tape, like I do everything else. I'm 30" about, above or below. Now, knowing clothes, this means 'snug' needs to be at 28" measurement slack, with a relatively easy pull elastic. You know what just BARELY rises to that size? What's the tiniest bra I can even fit into without so much rib compression that I go breathless and purple in the face? 36 band. Which is 27.5" unstretched by my measure. I'm sitting here regretting not getting at least one 38 for comparison. This has nothing to do with the wrong cup; it's entirely a matter of inches about the ribs. A 36 band is less than 30 inches around.
Dude, that's the starting point. Go look at that site again ,and the HerRoom site. They mention that one of the things that can mess with the band size if you're smaller is having a larger rib cage or sternum-- those will make sure that you have to look for the exact right style for stuff to lie flat.
And again, check out the websites -- they mention that this is in the UK sizing for some people, because yeah, tags from the American bra industry? Not gonna help you. A 30" should be *30*, or the next size up at a 32.
What cup sizes were you using? Did you measure said cups while bending over? That is what made the HUGE difference for me. 8". Not the 6" that a C cup will come out to with a 40 band.
Again, YMMV, but I'd get someone to help you out with that. It worked for me, yup.
I'd buy this being a US/UK difference (there's a reason I shop with a measuring tape in the first place), except that american shops have the same general fitting instructions, and I keep hearing the same stories from my friends of what a great difference it made when they did it that way.
I had reluctantly used B cups and not filled them until recently; at this point I fill a 36B just right, it's just a little obnoxiously tight (on the *ribs*, not the bust). But I haven't had the patience to deal with a store that would want to fit me just to find a store that actually has a 38A I could try, so... Good enough.
Mind, years ago, and my sizes in everything else including corsets haven't changed in the meanwhile, I wore a 32AA, and there's no way I could get into one of those now (I measured; they're less than 22" around, at least these days; no I don't have any of my old ones to compare) so... Who even knows.
I'm just happy they're not dropping out of the bottom if I move wrong any more. Or the top, if I try to bend over. It felt waaay too tight at first, but given a quarter hour, it was fine.
Those Bali ones look super-comfy though-- may have to find somewhere to try those on.
OMG, hell yeah! I was a 38C--40C all my freakin' life, then six months ago, this snooty saleslady did measuring and observing (which seems to be key) and said I was a 36D or 36DD. Well, I laughed all the way out of the dressing room--that's crazy talk!
Then I did my own research and went to a couple of stores and tried on some 36Ds and 36DDs. Once I got over the initial "holy crap, that's a tight band!" (the point I quit with the first lady) they felt amazing--finally, no shoulder sliding! And the gore thing, who knew?? I looked smaller in the waist, NGL, my rack looked great, more cleavage, etc. And I felt like I was standing up straighter, and again, the shoulders!
I could cry for all the uncomfortable boobage I've endured for years. But I'm so glad people are hearing about this now.You are so, so right!
I know! I think maybe cheap bras, or the kinds with itchy fabric, don't really help-- the last thing you want is that stuff digging into more tender flesh. But a decent sized bra with a strong band and nice fabric? Holy wow. Shoulders! Not owie! Not constantly trying to keep the straps up!
Seriously, I want to track down the fashion industry people and hurt someone.
A thing that is also REALLY IMPORTANT is the shape of your breasts. I was talking with a friend who has at least 2x as much mass in her chest as I do about bra fittings, and I mentioned that I only buy demi-cups or balconettes, because my breasts are rounded to the bottom, not the top
(in other words, if I tried to wear a full cup, there would be a lot of empty space under the fabric, no matter how well it fit everywhere else).
My friend's eyes lit up, and it was like angels sang hosannas. She had the same problem, but nobody had told her that larger-chested women might not carry breast weight equally...
I know! That HerRoom website was massively useful that way, explaining which ones might work with which kinds of bands and cut. YEESH. WHY DO THEY THINK WE ALL HAVE THE SAME MELON BREASTS.
(Reminds me of those damn harlequin novels where the girls had pear-shaped breasts, and I always had to *headtilt* and wonder if they were like lopsided figure-eights or something.)
I am considering trying one of those shelf bras? Although my experience says i will overflow it, maybe I won't if it's the right size. And some of them are Soooo pretty. I would like something that's not just a Sensible Bra.
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Now I was a 36C until college, when I slid into a 36D for the longest time, until I finally had to admit I was a ("huge") 38DD.
I went into Aphrodite's and said "38DD" and the sales chick said "Oh, no..." over her shoulder as she hit the stock. I honestly didn't know if this was a "no, bigger" or like the time I was 15 and doing a summer "class" at I. Magnin's department store* and it would be "Oh god no, you're not that big!"
She came out with a 38G just from eyeing me walking in the door. (Turned out the 38H fit better.)
I honestly never had any idea that the gore was supposed to touch the skin. I thought it made a handy pocket by design (although it worked better as a sunglass hanger, because things were prone to falling right through on me).
lizbetann had never understood celli and me complaining about shoulder pain. A few weeks before the Aphrodite's trip she and I tried on ( ... )
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I was telling Perri this, and about how the straps? Finally lie flat. Instead of like window awnings or something. WHAT THE HELL, BRA INDUSTRY.
The 36G's fit great for about 2/3 of my breasts; it's just the top third is loose, a little empty, so I may check out the 36F's and see if they fit okay.
Plus! Plus plus! The ones on HerRoom have what they call "leotard" backs-- my shoulders slope down precipitously, with the straps falling off all the time. The leotard backs are U-shape that means they don't do that. *headdesk ( ... )
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And again, check out the websites -- they mention that this is in the UK sizing for some people, because yeah, tags from the American bra industry? Not gonna help you. A 30" should be *30*, or the next size up at a 32.
What cup sizes were you using? Did you measure said cups while bending over? That is what made the HUGE difference for me. 8". Not the 6" that a C cup will come out to with a 40 band.
Again, YMMV, but I'd get someone to help you out with that. It worked for me, yup.
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I had reluctantly used B cups and not filled them until recently; at this point I fill a 36B just right, it's just a little obnoxiously tight (on the *ribs*, not the bust). But I haven't had the patience to deal with a store that would want to fit me just to find a store that actually has a 38A I could try, so... Good enough.
Mind, years ago, and my sizes in everything else including corsets haven't changed in the meanwhile, I wore a 32AA, and there's no way I could get into one of those now (I measured; they're less than 22" around, at least these days; no I don't have any of my old ones to compare) so... Who even knows.
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Those Bali ones look super-comfy though-- may have to find somewhere to try those on.
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Then I did my own research and went to a couple of stores and tried on some 36Ds and 36DDs. Once I got over the initial "holy crap, that's a tight band!" (the point I quit with the first lady) they felt amazing--finally, no shoulder sliding! And the gore thing, who knew?? I looked smaller in the waist, NGL, my rack looked great, more cleavage, etc. And I felt like I was standing up straighter, and again, the shoulders!
I could cry for all the uncomfortable boobage I've endured for years. But I'm so glad people are hearing about this now.You are so, so right!
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Seriously, I want to track down the fashion industry people and hurt someone.
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(in other words, if I tried to wear a full cup, there would be a lot of empty space under the fabric, no matter how well it fit everywhere else).
My friend's eyes lit up, and it was like angels sang hosannas. She had the same problem, but nobody had told her that larger-chested women might not carry breast weight equally...
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(Reminds me of those damn harlequin novels where the girls had pear-shaped breasts, and I always had to *headtilt* and wonder if they were like lopsided figure-eights or something.)
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