LJ Idol - Week 4 - Sexual Ethics

[butterbuns]

Wow, I left this to the wire, didn't I? Well, in any case, I'm sure anyone who knows me and saw the topics probably saw this coming

Comments

[imafarmgirl]

Well said. I'm a 31 year old virgin. People just don't get it. I wrote a similar entry last time this topic came around. As far as sex, I haven't gotten around to it, haven't found the right person, it just hasn't been right and that's it and I don't see the big deal, but like you, people tell me to get it over with.

[butterbuns]

Well, see, I think there's a medium in there, but I mean, I have a friend and he's slept with oh, last count back in like April was 65 people.

He's 21. Like, that? I'm sorry, but I do NOT understand that. To me that's just crazy. It's just such an extreme that I'm boggled by it.

[bakerlooline]

I was a virgin 'till I was 21, almost 22, despite having two long-term, serious relationships prior to losing it. it happens. people need to not be so judge-y.

[comedychick]

I don't think there's anything wrong with you. I think everyone has their own standards, and are no less relevant than the next person's. Honestly, more people probably should have higher standards!

[aries11]

You remind me a lot of myself. I'm 25 and still a virgin, and just like you, I don't want to do it with just anybody so I can say I did it. I also have the same standards for attraction. I remember in high school, I had a friend who used to make it a point to tell everyone how unattractive her boyfriend (who is now her husband) was, but he was just so sweet. She was known for being a shallow person, so I think that was her way of showing she wasn't, but really, I thought it made her seem more shallow. Anyway, my point is that while looks shouldn't be the deciding factor, I can't be with someone I'm not at least somewhat physically attracted to.

I once went out with a guy who, in addition to many other things that were wrong with him, was four inches shorter than I was. When we held hands, I felt like I was leading around a kid I was babysitting. I was also light years ahead of him in terms of intelligence, and he didn't have very high expectations for himself. Our first date was our last.

[butterbuns]

I once went out with a guy who, in addition to many other things that were wrong with him, was four inches shorter than I was.

I hate to say it, but this is one of my big isses. I'm tall for a girl, and while I have no problem dating a guy shorter than me, there's only so much shorter I feel I can go, because I don't want to feel the way you did, haha. And unfortunately for me most of the guys I know are shorter than me :P

[chocolate_frapp]

I couldn't care less who's shorter.