Thank you guys. He has expressed he wants to get help, he is waiting for his new insurance to kick in. He even asked me if he went to rehab and made it through, if I would stay with him. I love him, but that trust that had been there is gone. Its unreal.
He can start treatment either at ECMC or the Buffalo Psyche Center without insurance (just as an FYI). I'm not sure how it'd work once insurance kicked in though.
Glad to hear that he's interested in getting help!
Meetings are free, and full of people who would gladly help get him through his days until he can get into a rehab.
I also forgot to mention that there are meetings online - you might find this to be a more useful resource for yourself than him right now - there are almost always people there willing to 'listen' to you vent, and who will share their own experiences with you as well.
To the original poster: I can't offer any advice that hasn't already been given here, but I do want to say kudos for coming forward like this and asking for help on his behalf. Even with the degree of anonymity that the Internet affords, it can be awfully tough to share something so personal with people you don't even know.
The best thing you can do for him right now is be there for him in whatever way you can. Obviously help him get the professional assistance he so clearly needs, but stick by his side and show him that you care. That can mean just as much, if not more, than anything a doctor or counselor may be able to do for him.
Best of luck to you both. Stay in faith that he will get through this.
NA saved my life, my family, my friendships, etc. I'd be happy to hook your ex up with some men in the program who would be happy to help him. Email me if you like and I can point you in the right direction. xdolliejox@yahoo.com. *The reason I specify hooking him up with men in the program is because I stick with the suggestion of men with the men and women with the women. It's nothing personal. :)
I don't have any great advice, and it looks like more than enough great suggestions have been given by these guys anyway. So I just wanted to say best of luck to you both and I hope he gets the help he's looking for, and I am very sorry this had to happen to the both of you. Best wishes~
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This is just an awful situation.
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At any rate, I wish you both the best of luck.
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Meetings are free, and full of people who would gladly help get him through his days until he can get into a rehab.
I also forgot to mention that there are meetings online - you might find this to be a more useful resource for yourself than him right now - there are almost always people there willing to 'listen' to you vent, and who will share their own experiences with you as well.
http://stepchat.com/
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http://www.ola-is.org/olais/chat.htm#asc
It's so overwhelming in the beginning - take it easy.
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The best thing you can do for him right now is be there for him in whatever way you can. Obviously help him get the professional assistance he so clearly needs, but stick by his side and show him that you care. That can mean just as much, if not more, than anything a doctor or counselor may be able to do for him.
Best of luck to you both. Stay in faith that he will get through this.
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*The reason I specify hooking him up with men in the program is because I stick with the suggestion of men with the men and women with the women. It's nothing personal. :)
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