The State of the Union
The other day someone was telling me about how they are in a band - four guys, one girl, & how the girl has "gone out" with the other three & is now (living) with him, & he seemed to think it was ok, & normal*. Then, while on holiday, the Pastor of the church we visited said that a while after he'd moved into their
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I've never been married, and somehow this makes me inferior...as if there is something horridly wrong with me that would render me unmarriable. I could have married Bill, course, I would also prolly be in debt from a divorce now if I had. Even amongst my divorced friends, I'm seen as "poor Sarah". I think for most people, marriage is seen only as a reflection of ones social status. As for sex, well yeah, I do it. It's usually a couple of months between, but honestly, it has to be done. I mean, find me a guy who would stay with a girl if she didn't? They simply dont exist. It sucks and I object, but I look at it the same way I look at having to get dressed up for a job interview or social event: right or wrong,when it's the world against you, you loose. I do want to be married someday, so what else am I to do ?
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I have friends in their 70s, & 80s, who are still single & have lived fullfilled (& v busy) llves. Mind you, one of them says she still wouldn't mind having a man around (hard as it would be to alter her habits now!)
& it is possible to manage without sex - we both did for the first 24/25 years (til we got married) & subsequently at times when the Depression (usually mine) has gotten too bad. Mind you, it's a lot easier to manage if you haven't started! & the pressures to have sex today are just ridiculous, no wonder AIDs & all the other STDs are so rampant.
As for "if it's the world against you, you loose" - ok, sometimes, but "If God is for us, who can (successfully) be against us?" Romans 8 (near the end!) Which isn't to say it isn't tough - whatever the issue.
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And yeah, i knew that was coming. Really though, I don't think I want to be alone later in life. Btw, I do think the whole business is somewhat misogynistic when you think about it :(
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Having said which, I quite enjoy not having to be the one with the final responsibility - hard as it can be to go along with some decisions!
& I sometimes think H could more happily do without than me!
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