In which Brandon makes a substantial post.

[brndnslvr85]

Ok so I have been absent from LJ for a while now, and it is high time I actually posted about what has been going on

Comments

[sunnyrea]

I don't think its possible to really love someone if you don't know their true character. Because they what you would love wouldn't be them. It would be what you think they are or just what you see on the outside. You would love in idealized version of them in your head, not who they really are. Character is usual half or the whole reason you love someone.

[sunnyrea]

Talk about spelling errors, Becca. Sheesh! Sorry about that

[tanaearanduril]

Here's a question. Do you think it's possible to fall in love with someone you don't even know? Not in the sense that you haven't met them, but that you do not know their true character. You speak to them in passing, and you know each other, but have not gotten to know one another. Is it possible to fall in love with said individual? Disccuss.I've always felt that one could subconciously discern another's character from the first few meetings. People have a way of betraying their true self to others in ways that aren't necessarily just words. Sometimes we recognize these signs for what they are and other times we simply pay heed to our subconcious, who realizes it all

[noueux]

I think it's easier to fall in love with someone if you don't really *know* them. Because you can imagine what you'd like, and have a completely perfect idea of that person, in your head. I think it's a hell of a lot harder to fall in love with someone that you know really well, because you have to contend with the fact that there ARE things about that person that you don't like. Does that effect your love for them? Probably. Does knowing a person so well make it impossible to love them? No, not really.

[queen_phantima]

I would have to agree that it is virtually impossible to truely love someone you do not know. It is very probale to be in lust. By lust I don't mean the 'omg I want to have sex with that person' type we normaly associat with lust. Really the only difference between love and lust is that while lust can and will eventually die and is completley conditional on how the person behaves, love cannot simply die and it is unconditional, meaning you know the persons faults, but no matter what they do you still love them.

That being said, lust is not a bad thing either. Often it paves the way to love in a transistion people have a hard time recognizing. Lust doesn't really mean you want to have sex with someone (though the extreem form of lust does). Really it is only a gateway, and depending on how the other person acts and depending on you, it will either close off all posibilities for love, or eventually transistion into love.

Does that help or do I sound like a lunatic?

[slow_like_honey]

"Do you believe in a love at first sight?
Yes I'm certain that it happens all the time..."

The Beatles can answer anything. Like the Bible. But with more pop culture.

Happy Channukah!