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brinniel

Day Off

Jul 13, 2007 00:52

Today was my day off. What a relief. Now I know I wanted to work plenty of hours, but it's exhausting. First of all, I'm constantly stuck on the 1:45 shift, which means you spend your time sweeping theatres and the lobby, floating (helping out those with tills with concessions, and on busy nights, taking the extra till), and filling in when someone ( Read more... )

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Comments 19

polemically July 13 2007, 08:03:54 UTC

Well, I'm 19 as well and engaged, unofficially I guess since I don't have a rock on my finger and am practically begging him not to spend all that money on a stupid ring. This is a work in progress.

As for feeling like a kid at 19...hell, I think people still feel like a kid even when they're older. They still feel unsure of themselves, they still make stupid mistakes...need I go on?

As far as I'm concerned age should have nothing to do with marriage/engagement (unless it's really pervy) --~~ it should be all about maturity.

Sometimes I wonder if people marry young because they think more of the ceremony rather than the meaning of marriage itselfMy ideal marriage ceremony is rather cheap -- ours will probably be a barbeque/fish fry complete with delicious cakes and cookies and puddings and plenty of mixed CDs to play on the radio. I even would rather have a ship's captain do it, but I don't know if they're allowed anymore ( ... )

brinniel July 13 2007, 08:37:45 UTC

I think it does depend on the persons...I've known some young people who have gotten married who I totally don't think are ready, and then again, there are some couples who are just meant to marry young ( ... )

polemically July 13 2007, 09:02:11 UTC

Oooh, I hadn't even thought about the legal/political view of marriage...only considering it from a moral/religious perspective.

Thanks.

brinniel July 13 2007, 19:37:57 UTC

No problem. I always think it best to look from both perspectives.

Here's a wiki link on the legal rights and reponsibilities:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rights_and_responsibilities_of_marriages_in_the_United_States

lalwendeboggart July 13 2007, 12:18:13 UTC

It all depends on you! Yes it was more common years back for kids to marry young, probably as it was frowned upon to 'live in sin' ;) (put like that it sounds more fun than it is...) But people still do marry young, and in the past, people still married late or not at all!

My parents married young - my mum was 20, my dad 21 - and they had been together since they were about 14/15. They waited til then as my dad had to earn his apprenticeship and work his way up in the RAF before he could get a house provided outside barracks. Even after that they waited until they were about 25 before any kids because he wanted to have left the RAF and got settled down.

But I am not even married now! Engaged is 'as good as' to me though. I'm pleased I did not marry before - I have property and if I'd been married then someone else would have had a claim on it. Not only that, but I'd have made a big mistake!

firefoot_1428 July 13 2007, 12:24:22 UTC

I definitely agree with you, Brin. Once in a while I hear from/about people who are planning on getting married right out of high school and I wonder if that's really the best thing. I wouldn't want to be married until I was out of college - and any more, a college education of some sort is pretty important. There was a girl who sat at my lunch table last year who intended to get married straight out of high school and not go to college, and that's great, but what happens if the marriage doesn't work out? Where does that put you?

And if they do get married and go to college, that just seems like it would be that much more difficult - financially, responsibility-wise, time-wise...

mithalwen July 13 2007, 13:46:55 UTC

Well said Firefoot. I mean obviously you wish people well in theor marriages but a lot don't work. A woman with education is at least going to have a better chance of supporting herself and her children if the handsome prince turns out to be a toad...

mithalwen July 13 2007, 13:43:38 UTC

While every case is different ... all the people I know who got married very young are now divorced. But I one of my friends met someone at 19 who was her first boyfriend and they are still together 18 years on.... (married for only six of those years though). However I know a lot of peopel who met at Uni and it has worked so I think those few extra years can make all the difference. And perhaps you are more likely to find someone compatible at Uni rather than (high) school. Also I think you need a time of relative independence and freedom, to discover yourself before committing to another person (and bringing other people into the world).

And as you point out the very young may have mixed motives - want the ceremony/ attention / escape from parental restrictions....

brinniel July 13 2007, 19:33:43 UTC

Indeed. I remember reading or hearing somewhere that majority of people actually meet their spouses through some sort of college or university. That's how my sister met her fiance, and she had done very little dating beforehand (which makes me feel a bit better about my experiences, or lack of).

As for the motives thing, while some have fancy weddings, many young couples I hear about have small simple ceremonies...I think what may attract them is the whole romantic aspect: the vows, putting on the rings, the kiss. And of course, it seems a lot more special when you tell a stranger or old friend that you're engaged rather than simply saying that this is your boyfriend/girlfriend. Perhaps the media has a large role in this. I mean, you see young people on TV and movies getting married, and it seems so romantic and perfect. But what they don't show you is the other responsiblities and obligations that do come with marriage...

runesf July 13 2007, 14:44:24 UTC

Marriage at a young age is not that commen here, although a lot of people claim to be engaged when they are only 16 or 17. . .but of course these things never work out ( ... )

brinniel July 13 2007, 19:54:39 UTC

Oh, getting engaged while still in high school I think is a mistake. I mean, you're still a child who is dependent on parents. Engagement at that age prepares you for something you're physically, mentally, and emotionally not ready for yet ( ... )

firefoot_1428 July 14 2007, 02:00:53 UTC

I agree about dating/being engaged for a while... my parents, while they were older (I think my mom was past 30), only knew each other for 5 (7?) months before getting married, and while my mom doesn't regret it, precisely, retrospectively I think she might have done things differently. She says that there were sides to my dad that she never really found out about until after they were married.