My brain is not your brain, so quit trying to make it like yours.

[brightlotusmoon]

Copied and pasted here to remind myself.

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[el_esteleth]

I had a thought while reading this, or more a question, or something. I dunno. LOL

Today was one of those days where I got asked multiple times when I would get over my Fibromyalgia or be cured, etc. I was having a horrible pain day and it showed. I couldn't hide it once my pain got to an 8. I'm wondering now if that's the reason people try to do person-first language, so they can 'cure' someone with a disability with the way they talk about them. Kinda like that kind of language means that the disabled person chose the disability.

I dunno. I don't even know if that made sense. (Brain fog like insane at the moment.)

[brightlotusmoon]

That made fantastic sense, and it is a great thought. I do feel as though the "person-first" people would rather see the problem go away so it doesn't have to bother them - particularly if they don't have disabilities.

[el_esteleth]

*nods* That's the attitude I get every day from the people at work and around me, a lot. They don't want to "deal with" a disabled person, and I think since Fibro's invisible, a lot of them don't even believe it exists. But trying to dismiss or get rid of the Fibro makes me feel like I just need to disappear, like I'm not a person. So the dang person-first language makes me feel less of a person. If that makes any sense at all... It's not like I slack at work or in my other stuff, I work hard and get things done, even with a disability. So I don't know if that makes them feel inadequate cuz I work so hard, or something. I dunno. (Sorry for the venting. I had no idea I was this upset over today.)

[brightlotusmoon]

Trying to dismiss. Yes. Exactly.