-- okay, go deeper, Cassie. Not only do I love that song, I love what it says. in the end, let's face it, we're all made of the same stuff, even if it looks different, so what the hell, haters?
And change is scary, no question. I never liked it much myself. Change is also necessary, whatever the pace. Take it slow or fast, but evolve as you go. How do people stay set in their ways, anyway? I've never understood that one; the one change I love is the freedom to change my mind.
I was having a conversation with two male friends and a female friend, and the topic of gay love on TV came up. One of the guys admitted, refreshingly, that he was a little homophobic - he supported gay marriage, he didn't mind gay love. But, he didn't want to see it on TV or in movies, and he didn't like see gay PDA. And then my female friend - someone I'd been friends with for ten whole years - said pretty much the same thing. I asked them if they felt that way about heterosexual love, and they said that PDA of any kind, with any gender, makes them feel uncomfortable. I don't know if that made it better. Later, she was over at my house and we were watching a "True Blood" episode On Demand. There was a scene coming up where two men in a car share a long, deep kiss. My friend said, "Ugh, I need to fast forward this. I can't watch that. I don't need to see it. It just makes me uncomfortable." I frowned at her, and I said nothing, but I feel like I should have.
There are teachable moments and then there are moments when it's all you can do not to puke, eh?
Show her the "Heart of Gold" episode of Firefly sometime. I'm thinking of the scene between Mal and Nandi. Ask her if that's gross, too. :)
(I think it's utterly hot, myself, but then I think Nathan Fillion and Melinda Clarke are both fine specimens of human body, so I may be biased.)
For me, if a person doesn't like to watch other people gettin' it on (or even kissing), as long as they're totally equal-opportunity about the dislike, I don't mind. That's me, of course, and not you. But what I do mind is making a distinction. Straight, gay, and everywhere in between, I value consistency. Gonna watch the straight folks go at it? You can at least not go "Ew, gross" when you see the gay ones doing to same. I mean, it's not like gay guys find men kissing *women* hot, necessarily, or like lesbians find women kissing *men* hot, but I never do hear those complaints from queer people.
She doesn't seem to mind hetero kissing/sex on television - she watches soap operas, which have endless kissing and make-out scenes. But apparently she will fast-forward through those, too. I dunno. Maybe she's just uncomfortable in general. But she admits to being "highly sexual" and such, and she's had crushes on women. I think she may be figuring out herself.
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Agreed. So, so much.
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-- okay, go deeper, Cassie. Not only do I love that song, I love what it says. in the end, let's face it, we're all made of the same stuff, even if it looks different, so what the hell, haters?
And change is scary, no question. I never liked it much myself. Change is also necessary, whatever the pace. Take it slow or fast, but evolve as you go. How do people stay set in their ways, anyway? I've never understood that one; the one change I love is the freedom to change my mind.
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I was having a conversation with two male friends and a female friend, and the topic of gay love on TV came up. One of the guys admitted, refreshingly, that he was a little homophobic - he supported gay marriage, he didn't mind gay love. But, he didn't want to see it on TV or in movies, and he didn't like see gay PDA. And then my female friend - someone I'd been friends with for ten whole years - said pretty much the same thing. I asked them if they felt that way about heterosexual love, and they said that PDA of any kind, with any gender, makes them feel uncomfortable. I don't know if that made it better.
Later, she was over at my house and we were watching a "True Blood" episode On Demand. There was a scene coming up where two men in a car share a long, deep kiss. My friend said, "Ugh, I need to fast forward this. I can't watch that. I don't need to see it. It just makes me uncomfortable." I frowned at her, and I said nothing, but I feel like I should have.
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Show her the "Heart of Gold" episode of Firefly sometime. I'm thinking of the scene between Mal and Nandi. Ask her if that's gross, too. :)
(I think it's utterly hot, myself, but then I think Nathan Fillion and Melinda Clarke are both fine specimens of human body, so I may be biased.)
For me, if a person doesn't like to watch other people gettin' it on (or even kissing), as long as they're totally equal-opportunity about the dislike, I don't mind. That's me, of course, and not you. But what I do mind is making a distinction. Straight, gay, and everywhere in between, I value consistency. Gonna watch the straight folks go at it? You can at least not go "Ew, gross" when you see the gay ones doing to same. I mean, it's not like gay guys find men kissing *women* hot, necessarily, or like lesbians find women kissing *men* hot, but I never do hear those complaints from queer people.
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